Who's name is first on invitation?

[panther]

My Fiancé and I are having a debate about whos name should go first on the invitation. We are not traditionalists in any sense but I am curious as to what the proper etiquette is bride or groom first? And what others are doing? Also, if you are including parents names on the invitations whose parent’s names go first, bride or groom?

 

Maybe this should be in the invitiations thread, ooops!

[YoursTruly]

That is the beauty of making this your own tradition. If your parents are paying for the ceremony then it is etiquette for them to be on the invite and your name first given in marriage to FI, etc etc.

 

If you guys are paying together then again, you can do what you'd like but generally your name is first.

[**TIFFANY**]

My parents are paying for the wedding and they are divorced so I listed my mom and then my dad announce the marriage of their daugher, my name, to my fiances name. I think it's all up to you on how you want to word things.

[BachataBride]

I did not include the parents names since we are paying for the wedding ourselves. I also put my name first, but I cleared this with FI first!! lol

He actually always puts my name first for everything - if he's signing a card it's always Amanda & Jeff...me? it depends on who I'm sending the card to; my family I put my name first; his family, I put his first.

In anycase, back to the topic! I say whatever feels & sounds right to you!

[*Casey*]

We aren't even putting the FIL's on the invitation, but we are having a very traditional wedding. Formal etiquette the brides name goes first (first and middle name only) then the grooms full name. Here's an example of what I found online:

 

Mr. and Mrs. Clyde C. Martin

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Margaret Ashley

to

Mr. Peter Phillip Chandler

Saturday, the sixteenth of July

Two thousand and Ten

at five o'clock in the afternoon

Woman's Library

Route 6A

Brewster, Massachusetts

Hope this helps!!!

[Bianca]

My name was first... All the invites I looked at had the bride first, so thats what I did. We didnt put our parents names but we did invite everyone "together with our family"

[stacey]

My name went first. We didnt do our parents name.

 

Ours went:

The honor of your presence is requested at the wedding of

stacey blah blah

and

Ely blah blah

 

etc,,,

[KLC77]

My name was first, then his. We have a more complicated family so to include everyone it just read~ Together with their parents, My Name and His Name, invite you to blah blah blah...

[sunsetbride1]

Quote:

Originally Posted by BachataBride I did not include the parents names since we are paying for the wedding ourselves. I also put my name first, but I cleared this with FI first!! lol He actually always puts my name first for everything - if he's signing a card it's always Amanda & Jeff...me? it depends on who I'm sending the card to; my family I put my name first; his family, I put his first. In anycase, back to the topic! I say whatever feels & sounds right to you!

I will be doing this the same exact way as Amanda and usually handle all signing of couple-y things the same way.

It's up to you. In general, I would say if the parents are paying for the wedding; then put them first - perhaps use what Casey posted as a guide. O

[BakersGirl]

Great post!! We have been having the same debate. He got me our toasting flutes which were engraved with our Monogrammed initials....he put his name first, but I thought mine should be first.