No bridal party????

[lil_miss_frogg]

Okay...now that I have your attention....HaHa....I very much want to have my two sisters and my daughter to be my bridesmaids and jr. bridesmaid. I think sharing this with them is very improtant...especially when it comes to my daughter. Although she likes my FH very much, she is very afraid that he is trying to take her Daddy's place, which he isn't. I want to include her in a lot of what goes on with this wedding and I know that her being in the wedding will make her feel super special. She has already told me that she wants to do a TTD session with pictures and everything. I am all for this and want her to be happy. My fiancee is against having anybody at the alter with us. How do I explain to him that this is very important to me and want to include our children especially in this beautiful day. We are a family and it should show on our wedding day.....right PLEASE HELP!

 

~Samie~

[Cattie]

Maybe instead of having an actual bridal party, you can do the sand ceremony with your daughter. I've seen alot of photo's with this involving children to "blend" the families together.

 

Another idea to incorporate them in, you could have each of the sisters bring one of the rings up at the proper time in a shell, then vice versa.

 

This way you have everyone involved in there own special way, and the FI thinks he gets what he wants!

[lil_miss_frogg]

I like the way you think! Makin him think he's getting what he wants. He always gets what he wants.....I want this. I am really thinking I am not going to give into him on this. Would it be okay if I had people up there with me and he doesn't? I'm so confused....I don't want to look stupid or anything like that!

[Sapphire723]

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Originally Posted by lil_miss_frogg I like the way you think! Makin him think he's getting what he wants. He always gets what he wants.....I want this. I am really thinking I am not going to give into him on this. Would it be okay if I had people up there with me and he doesn't? I'm so confused....I don't want to look stupid or anything like that!

I would explain to him all the things you said to us. Remind him that he will now be a part of your daughter's life forever. It should be less about who gets what they want and more about what the ceremony symbolizes as a new family. Honestly, if you pour your heart out about this, I don't know how he could refuse.

But no, it wouldn't be weird if you have people up there and he doesn't. You can have it whatever way you want. Does he not have any males that are super close to him? Maybe he's being insistent on it just being the two of you because he's worried about choosing people? Go ahead and talk it out with him. No fighting, just talking and listening. Find out what his real concerns about it are and see if you can meet those concerns while still honoring yourself and your daughter.

[lil_miss_frogg]

Well, we agreed on a family ONLY wedding. Only including parents, grandparents, and brothers and sisters. Along with their families. With that said....I have two sisters so naturally I want them up there with me....him on the other hand has 6 brothers, I think if he had to choose just two it would be hard for him. I don't know....BLAH!

[Jacqueline]

hm this is a tuff one..

 

is there any chance he'd consider just having them all? if it is really what you want, maybe you can talk to him and say its something that is very impt to you.

if u had all your sisters, and he had his bros, each girl could have two guys walk beside her, that would look great i think.

 

if you compromise i like catties idea, with involving them all somehow in the ceremony, and have your daughter stand beside you since she is

going to be his daughter too....

[lil_miss_frogg]

I never thought of that...walking two guys to one girl. That might just be cute! I can work with that. Hopefully my FI will also! Thanks Jacqueline! for you!

[Jacqueline]

) sure thing!!

[YoursTruly]

you girls are the bestest---good advice

[lil_miss_frogg]

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Originally Posted by YoursTruly you girls are the bestest---good advice

I know right!?! I knew my girls would have a solution to my problem...all I had to do was ask and !!!POOF!!! an answer!