RSVP Experience

[Jen_S]

I am curious what was your RSVP experience? We sent out 80 invites and only got maybe 15 RSVPs back and the deadline was Monday. Do people tend to send them late or is that an assumption that they are not coming? As we have not gotten any after Monday. Hmm

[Maura]

you should probably start calling if you want to find out if people are coming - not sending back a reply card on time does not always mean they are not coming. we sent out just over 300 invitations and only about 20% of them RSVPd without us having to call them first to ask if they were coming. tons of people who didnt send back reply cards still came to our wedding, so thank goodness my MIL called them all beforehand when they didnt send back a card.

[Sloan]

We didnt get a bunch back.. I lost count and dont care anymore. I used our booking deadline as our RSVP date, so if they didn't book then I took that as they aren't coming. Fairly annoying to not receive replies back when you put time, effort and money into them, eh?

[jessyg20]

I agree. People don't realize how important RSVP's are. Believe me I had a total of 30 RSVPS and had 91 people show up at our wedding. We had people booking 2-3 weeks befoe the wedding even though we told them the deadline was a 2 months before.

So I totally recommend you start calling people and let them know YOU need to know.

[Jen_S]

Oh this makes me feel much better. I thought we would have gotten more back. It does stink when you spend the time and money. We did the message in bottle and burnt every piece and then put a stamp on all the rsvp envelopes. oh well lol!

[jessyg20]

All those nights of going to sleep late, cutting, pasting, getting your FI upset from all the money you spent, and the mess you left behind, yeah, they don't care! lol Good luck though!

[KLC77]

I agree, you have to start calling and it stinks! I'm still mad about the 42 cents wasted on all those reply card stamps. Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I'd say that half of our invited guests did not respond.

[starchild]

Yep, sadly this seems to be the norm around here. It happened to me as well. I wonder if this happens to people having "traditional" weddings as well or if it just happens to us lucky destination brides? As much as it stinks you'll have to follow up...and hope your guests tell the truth when they say they are coming...that's a thread of it's own

[kevsgirl]

Of 19 invitations we got back about 6 RSVPs total.

I found out about a month ago that one guy had booked back in Sept without ever receiving and invitation or RSVP'ing (he's technically my sister's guest).

I also just had 2 people book last week (we're getting married next Friday).

 

As much as it's hard, try to relax about it and definitely ask your guests, but don't expect them to offer the information. LOL! It's completely ridiculous. I think I"m at the point right now where I am starting to realize that it's completely ridiculous and have to laugh instead of raging. LOL!

[mexicobride2009]

We got maybe 10 rsvps back of the 35 invitations we sent out! I'd say about half of those came weeks after our requested "reply by" date. We stamped and addressed the reply envelopes and everything. All the had to do was check a box and put it in the mail..... Too hard for some I guess. So rude....