Uninvited guests - please help..

katken · November 29, 2008

I can understand your frustration. It is strange to think about people at your wedding that you don't know.

I can tell you though, I was always the "single" girl and went to several destination weddings while single. Once I went alone and once I brought a guest. I had so much more fun at the wedding when I brought a guest. It's hard being single to travel alone, go to dinner alone (before/after the wedding day), and even feel comfortable at the wedding alone.

$200-$300 a person is a lot for each extra guest, so I understand your delima, but if your friend's presence is important to you, I would allow them to bring a guest, even if it's their sister, so they can have more fun and feel comfortable the entire weekend of your wedding.

tylersgirl · November 30, 2008

I don't know what to tell you...my resort is an AI...If I was in your shoes I would just let them know that you normally would allow the "guest" if you had a traditional at home wedding, but since you are doing a destination wedding, the circumstances don't allow it and just be honest why. I would go ahead and allow the one friend bring her sister-in fact the same thing happened to me...my good friend said she invited her mom and brother to come...It shocked me, but she didn't mean any harm and I really like both of them (I am now hoping to hook up her brother with my sister-haha-I am a matchmaker). Remember this is your wedding and everyone should realize that you of course want to spend it with special people you know! Hope this helps...=)

Kat81 · November 30, 2008

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Originally Posted by KLC77

Hmmm, maybe you can let her know that of course she can bring her sister on the trip, but unfortunately she won't be able to attend your wedding due to the added costs or that you're having a really small wedding. I think that some people just get excited about taking a trip and forget that its your WEDDING. I also think that people don't realize that there are costs to having a wedding at a resort just like if you had it at home.

It may work out in the end because a lot of people say they are coming and then don't, so maybe you will have room for the sister. Or maybe she won't be able to come at all, but right now thinks she can. Things always change with guests right up until the day they leave!

I agree! Good advice

Angela139 · November 30, 2008

I think Tylersgirl's advice is awesome - as is everyone else's. We personally have indicated to our invitees that they can bring anyone they want, including friends (ie. not limited to dates)...we did this because it is an AI, and we are all staying there for a week - some of our guests would be pretty bored otherwise, not knowing anyone and not having anyone to hang out with. Our photographer is even bringing a friend (not at our expense). But if our destination wasn't AI, I think I'd take Tylersgirl's advice.

Hope it works out!