our relationship is getting too comfortable...what do i do???

[Ana]

i'm sorry you're upset! I think like the girls said, its kind of normal and alot of couples go through this. I think the best advice I can give is, try to make time to spend together and to have fun! here's some ideas:

 

(1)make it a point every night to go for a walk...even if its raining or snowing. Just walk for at least 15 min together. It will get you out of the house, away from the noise of life and allow you to connect.

 

(2)set one night a week as datenight, and take turns picking what to do. And it can't be sitting at home watching a movie...that doesn't count because its easy to pick up the laptop again.

 

(3)make rules about dinner. Such as no tv and that you have to eat at the table, that will allow you both to focus one eachother.

 

(4)maybe consider getting rid of cable...lol yea sounds torturous! We got rid of ours 2 years ago (we've been living together for almost 3) and it really improved our quality time...plus made more time for running, reading working on hobbies etc.

 

Relationships are always going to be work, they don't just happen...so don't be discouraged if it feels liek you're putting in more effort now than you were maybe before.