Unbelievable fiasco with SIL

[beachbride2009]

That was brought up, but I veto'd it...my FI and I don't want to share our week with anyone. Plus it would make for a really exhausting week, between their events and ours. And you know how people are...who'd want anyone "comparing" weddings! But thanks for the suggestion!

[1elephant]

i know if i was a guest, i'd compare. and i totally understand about not wanting to share the week. i told my BIL that if he proposed that month i'd kill him, let alone get married the same week!

[weddingchick]

sorry to hear that you are going through this. get those STD's out and plan the beautiful wedding of your dreams!

[beachbride2009]

Thanks everyone...I am trying to focus on our wedding and all the good stuff that comes with planning instead of dwelling on the evil SIL. Hopefully we'll know in the next couple days what they decide to go with. I plan on having those STDs in the mail by next Monday!

Ooh, and I sent my MIL our wedding website even though its a work in progress...just to get in there before the ESIL!!! Sneaky

[BecBennett]

Ouch, nasty is all I can say...

 

Your FSIL is probably thinking that the Mayan wedding is going to be beautiful, and there's no way she can compete with just a local wedding, so when she found out that you would be doing it, she all of a sudden thought "Why can't I expect my friends to pay to go?? She is!"

 

I know if I was in the same situation as your FSIL - I'd be very disapointed that someone else was going to go with the wedding that I wanted, but don't worry, I'm on your side, she had the chance to go with it, and decided against it...

 

Hopefully she'll either A) come to her senses or the whole family will rally behind you, and tell her that they wouldn't be able to go to her wedding, because they'll be at yours.

 

Just make sure to keep us updated as to what happens!

[KAMAY11]

Hey fellow Calgarian!!!

I would be just as upset as you are! It was very selfish of your FSIL to "book" a date AND place in the Okanagan and then turn around and say they want a DW wedding instead...WTF?! You are your FI gave Alex and Dave the respect of waiting and letting them enjoy their engagement and then once you have your plans in place she decides to change hers...Maybe she's jealous and is worried people would want to go to your wedding instead---i know that sounds dumb, but who knows what she's thinking....her actions were pretty low if you ask me!

Keep us updated!!

[Ana]

EEEK! sorry to hear that! I would be pretty upset too! I really hope that you guys are all able to figure this out and resolve the issues before it gets super out of hand

[Jen_S]

Oh I am so sorry you FSIL is doing this I would just want knock some sense into her especially since you waited to see what they were going to do. I would do what your doing keep moving with you planning and enjoy it there is no way anyone would talk me out of our DW wedding.

[cdc0427]

That beotch! LOL. Let her go through with it. Trust me, she can't plan much between now and then. Her wedding is not going to be near as perfect as yours. Make sure you do everything first. GET THOSE STDS OUT! Can your guests start paying for yours now? Make sure they have all that info! Trust me, she's not going to have a wedding of her dreams because she doesn't have enough time to plan it. One year wasn't enough for me, I pushed it back!

I would be very cautious getting fmil involved. IT COULD BACK FIRE.

[Michelle]

thats such a terrible situation she has put you in...but honestly i would not try to talk them out of having a DW if thats what they want also....just plan your wedding and dont worry about her (i know thats easy for me to say)

 

but im kinda going against wanting to argue her and make her change her mind...i know it sucks taht you both will have DWs but just because you chose to have one doesnt mean she cant and i know she said she was going to have her wedding at home but shes allowed to change her mind ....as much as you want your day to be the best day of your life she wants the same for herself so if i was her i would be pretty mad if someone tried to make me feel bad for changing my mind....she will resent you and your FI forever if you dont let her do what she wants for her big day. so honestly just plan your day and whoever makes it makes it and then maybe just have a big party at home when you get back so that you can see all the people that cant make it to mexico.