e-ring advice needed!! im really confused...

[Michelle]

ok so im feeling like im in such a wierd situation right now....my FI proposed in June this year but didnt have a ring at the time which i was totally fine with because we just didnt have the money for one (i say we because our bank account is the same) and it was kind of spur of the moment that he proposed he was planning to ask me around christmas time this year...ok so the part that im feeling wierd about is i really do want an e-ring and we have looked casually in jewelery stores and he asks what i want but what i really want is something i know is expensive and so i told him i want a smaller ring and i dunno i dont know now if i even should get an e-ring because its wierd to get one so long after being engaged.....

 

so what i need help with is what would you girls do if you were me?? would you tell him waht you really want? play it down and ask for something alot smaller? or just say you dont want and will just get an amazing wedding ring instead??

[syl1115]

I think you should tell him what you really want. Will it be an issue for you if you get something that you don't want? If you can't spend the money to get what you want then save it for your wedding ring. You don't have to have an e-ring at all. A friend of my did that and has an amazingly beautiful wedding ring.

[Michelle]

i probably should tell him what i really want i just feel guilty asking him to spend so much money...so im torn..but im thinking maybe ill just get a wedding ring that is all diamonds (eternity band?)

[RedDiamond]

I think you need to get something you are going to really love. Maybe that's a more expensive wedding ring, or both. Just don't set yourself up for disappointment and be sure to express how you feel. Remember that he can't read your mind so you need to tell him. Once he (and you) know what you want, you'll find a way to work it out.

[montegobay09]

I'd say tell him how you're feeling. Then you can talk it out and figure out what works best and makes both of you comfortable. He may not have a problem spending a lot on an ering and then getting a very inexpensive wedding band...or maybe if he feels there's no need for and ering especially an expensive one, you can agree on a very fancy wedding band. Either way, at least you will have talked it out with him and you both know where each other is coming from.

[Ana]

I would tell him what you really want, but I would also tell him that you feel like it should be a decision you make together as to whether or not you get it since you share a bank account. If you really love the e-ring maybe you don't have to get a wedding band, just use the e-ring instead. Also, I don't think you should feel weird about getting one after the proposal at all!!

[JulieG]

You don't want to start things off without being totally honest. So I say figure out what it is you really want and then tell him. They do have payment plans for rings, so you don't have to pay it all up front. Be honest with yourself and your future husband. You don't want to resent it later and get upset that you never got what you wanted.

[Mel&B]

Michelle, definitely get what you want. Trust me, you will be staring at it all day, every day once you have it. I don't think you need two rings if you don't want two, but try to find something you love. This doesn't mean that you have to break your budget, but spending any amount of money on something you don't love is a waste of money.

[kevsgirl]

Have you tried on the ring you think you want?

 

The reason I ask is because I thought I knew exactly what kind of ring I wanted, but when I went to try rings on, I realized quickly that it was way too flashy for me. What I ended up loving was miles and miles away from what I thought I wanted.

 

I would tell him you know what you think you want and go and try on a bunch of very different rings with an open mind. Maybe you'll find something that fits your budget and captures your heart!

 

Just to give you an idea. This is what I thought I wanted.

 

This is what I got (and love!)

[nicmicj]

I think you should tell him what you want. I however was not able to pick out the ring I wanted. I had wanted to go ring shopping but he never did. I did at least tell him what style ring, diamond shape, etc that I liked since he never wanted to go. After he proposed, he told me he wanted it to be a surprise. He actually did good in picking it out. I was not exactly what I wanted, but I still LOVE it.