Confused and getting overwhelmed!

SCzhen · October 22, 2008

Hi everyone,

I'm heading out to Paradisus and other resorts for a site visit next week and I feel like there is still a lot to research. The FI and I finally narrowed the list down to 6 potential resorts. We're trying to book appointments but still haven't heard back from some of them. In the meantime, I've started researching photographers (locals and from the states), transportation accomodations, random passport stuff (for my guests), thinking abt STD photos (wanted to have the beach in the background) etc etc and I'm getting stressed and really overwhelmed. I'm wondering if all this would be easier if I work with a separate wedding coordinator? That way we can probably split up some of the leg work and it would be a nice point of contact for my guests too? And can anyone recommend someone?

I really would appreciate any thoughts or advice!

-Sherry

JHarwood2Be · October 22, 2008

Hi there!

Take a deep breath....good.

Have fun on your site visits. Take it all in, take lots of pics, look at photos from previous weddings and try to imagine your wedding there and all of your guests. Do you have an idea on a date? If you have time, focus on nailing down the resort first.

After you decide on a resort, then contact some TA's to get pricing for your guests.

Usually the resort you choose has their own wedding coordinators, so you really don't need an independent one. Your TA should be able to help your guests arrange travel and also be a point of contact. It is also helpful to choose a TA who has worked with your location and coordinators before, so they can step in to speak on your behalf if necessary.

Try not to stress and enjoy this time.

Enjoy the Paradisus. I loved that resort and their weddings!

RedDiamond · October 22, 2008

Do you already have your date set? If not, a longer engagement can do wonders for helping you to get organized. I went through EXACTLY what you are talking about, to the point of breaking out in hives for a month straight from stress. We hadn't announced our date yet, and the minute we changed and decided on a longer engagement it was SUCH a relief. I had a hard time getting in touch with people, but with more time I was able to find a better group of people to work with who are responsive.

A coordinator can help a lot if you are able to hand off projects and don't like working on all of the little details. We decided not to use one to save money and because we wanted to have the say in who all of our vendors would be.