The Engagement Ring

[kimmaranto]

I am so glad you got the e ring straightened out. That is a sticky situation to be in. Congrats!!!

[katken]

Yay for getting the ring you want! Please post a pic!

[KEE LAC]

Okay here is honesty for you! LMAO I liked my ring but it was TOO SMALL! I think he made a quick decision and was not really saving for it. That was fine. I wanted another ring and it hurt his feelings. I am such a loser. Anyhow I got the another ring but I wished that I could have spared his feelings. I had to realize that it was bigger than the ring. But I wanted that Ooh ah look at that ring feeling and all I kept getting was that is cute which felt like it translated to oh that's little.I think trying the getting it placed in a different setting will be better. Good luck

[BajaBride2010]

Well the ring is gone but the situation in no where close to being resolved. I hurt his feelings deeply which has cause an imbalance in the relationship. The engagement or life commitment has gotten lost withint all the "discussions" about the RING. The deal is that one saw one ring a few month ago and he went and had it custom made. There were a few details that were different but it looked pretty close to the one we saw. I mentioned the details and it has been down hill ever since. I now wonder if the mention was really worth it and since he had pur so much time, energy and money into (considering my proposal was something out of a fairy tale. Well this has been ongoing for a few weeks, but now...I just want my old ring back.

[LisaMark]

I'm sorry to hear that...I guess now what's said is said so just try and move on and remind him how much you LOVED the actual way he proposed to you, and try to remind him of all the positive there is about your engagement. All the best and keep us posted.

[IslamoradaBride]

I'm sorry to hear this has caused a problem for you and your fiance. In my case, FI didn't consult me at all and purchased something that I probably wouldn't have picked for myself (a channel-set eternity band). But I love how it sparkles, how easy it is to wear, and that he didn't have to bankrupt himself to pay for it.

 

We've talked about upgrading in a few years anyhow, and he is not at all hurt by the suggestion. I'm even going for a very plain/simple band-- just ordered from Ross-Simons actually.

[KLC77]

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Originally Posted by BajaBride2010 Well the ring is gone but the situation in no where close to being resolved. I hurt his feelings deeply which has cause an imbalance in the relationship. The engagement or life commitment has gotten lost withint all the "discussions" about the RING. The deal is that one saw one ring a few month ago and he went and had it custom made. There were a few details that were different but it looked pretty close to the one we saw. I mentioned the details and it has been down hill ever since. I now wonder if the mention was really worth it and since he had pur so much time, energy and money into (considering my proposal was something out of a fairy tale. Well this has been ongoing for a few weeks, but now...I just want my old ring back.

I totally wish that I had been on here to see your post earlier. I was going to tell you that the e-ring my FI got me was the EXACT ring style I said I would HATE to have when we were just casually going thru a store one day. I was so disappointed when I got it, not only because it wasn't what I liked, but because it meant to me that he wasn't listening to me or that what I wanted didn't matter. Fast forward to a few months later (ok, almost a year) and I realized that I should love the ring because its what he picked out and what he liked. It has meaning to him and now I couldn't imagine having anything different. When I look at it now I don't see the ring that I hated, I see the ring that he was so excited to give to me and so excited he picked out all on his own.

I'm so sorry this is causing a problem for you guys. Hopefully he understands that you weren't trying to hurt his feelings or say that what he had done wasn't good... I don't have any good advice. It stinks that he's upset and that you guys have to deal with this.

[Boo]

I know that this is quite an old post, but I am actually up because we got engaged about 6 months ago, I love the shape of the ring, but I basically told him what I like and its 1 carrat so big enough, and it has a split shank and sparkly diamonds on the sides. The problem I have is that the diamond in the middle doesnt sparkly nearly as much as the side ones. I was cleaning the house and behind a book case found the specs on the ring, the cut is 'good' and clarity is 'SI1' - I dont want to change anything else about the ring, but to be honest kinda dissapointed that he didnt spend the extra 500-1000 that the jeweller said (I called today) would have cost to go up to 'very good' and 'VS1'. Now do I talk to him and get it upgraded or just leave it? the problem is I can see specs not on the top but on the side, and a 'good' cut and 'SI1' clarity is apparently as cheap as you can go in both categories (atleast in that store). I mean I know he spent extra money to get the 19K white gold, and I did get an extra 20 little diamonds on either side, but I wish the big stone had more sparkly

 

thanks ladies