Strippers at Bachelor Party?

[FoxyBride]

I've been to strip clubs with the FI so it's not really a big deal. In fact, I think I've been to more strip clubs in my life than he has! LOL. I guess it really just doesn't bother me. I don't think I'm the only woman he should ever see naked... as long as there's no other hanky panky.

 

I don't really care about porn either. We have watch some together but IMO he has bad taste in porn. I think mine is much better so if he insists on watching one of his I'm usually like yuck but if I get to pick, it's all good.

[Hartyt509]

I'm not bothered either. FI is in the army so if I worried about stuff like that i'd be nuts most of the time lol

 

I tell him its me he needs to worry about lmao

[sjmacphe]

Hey ladies...I just found this thread and I wanted to "bump" it - I am having the EXACT same feelings with my FI. His friends are planning to do a bachelor weekend in vegas and I really feel weird about it, I think for me it's the lap dance that I KNOW his friends will buy for him, I just feel gross about another girl that close to him with her lady parts all over him, I have never even been to a strip club - I think I need to have a lap dance too just to ease my mind ahha. I just wanted to make sure I'm not entirely psycho, I think I'm usually a pretty trusting person, but for me too the whole thing is bringing up weird emotions. They are planning to go this summer while they all have vacation, so I hadn't mentally prepared myself for this. My plan is to plan a bachelorette party in Vegas too, cause it's only fair!! Glad to know I am not alone though...

[*Nadine*]

I don't think any girl is alone in feeling like this. My FI was in vegas for his bach. party in may and they did go to the strippers. The only thing I said was 'you guys can go to the strippers but the strippers cant come to you'. Of course they are guys and more importantly all his friends would want to go to the strippers, its man nature. However, I am so against the 'hiring' of private strippers, thats just skeezy and Im not comfortable wtih it. I also said I would prefer him not to get a lap dance and he said he wouldnt but he also said he didnt think it was that big of a deal cause of cousre he loves me and would never do anything. So I said 'ok so you would be ok with me getting on another guys lap in my thong and rubbing my boobs in his face??' and FI's face was absolutely priceless, and he said 'ok, I understand'.. Sometimes they just need to see it from our prespective.

[*Nadine*]

oh and Stephanie, Im heading to veags in 23 days for my bach party now and I always said 'just remember, I go AFTER you' hahahah

[JOSIE]

ugh! I think its just written that even if your bf/fi/dh doesnt like strip clubs, he has at least 1 friend that does! I have to try not to think of any part of their night out, and I don't ask questions because hearing the details only makes me feel jealous. I tell myself that I've been to several CRAZY bachelorette parties and I know that they'd make my FI uncomfortable too...and he is always nothing but nice about them. So.........yes I think most of us can relate and I think the best advice is Yamille's to distract yourself! You know he loves you and you trust him, and there is no way this isn't going to make you uncomfortable.....its just one of those things!

 

Don't Stress!

[courtney_b00]

I've definitely been there before...I hate the thought of another girl's boobs in my fiancee's face! It's disgusting...but maybe you can talk to him about how you feel and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable with him being there, but if he just hangs back & doesn't get lapdances or touching in any way that would make you feel a lot better.

[BachataBride]

It's so funny that I came across this thread today!

My DH was just at a strip club last night for a friends bachelor party. It's a ritual with them - all of his platoon mates do it whenever one of them gets married! It doesn't really bother me - I'm just glad that he tells me. Most of the guys (and one lesbian) that go have to hide it from their wives/gfs. He says I'm the best wife ever!!!

It does bother me a bit, but I trust him & he always reassures me that he doesn't get lap dances, and I am WAY hotter than any of them!!

Him and I have been to the strip clubs before with other couples. It was alright, not something I would do everyday!

 

I can live without porn, but I don't mind it either.

DH and I used to watch it all the time. We had the playboy channel and he would seriously watch it the same as if he was watching Friends. If there was nothing else on at the time, porn went on! lol

But I did have to change the password on our satellite & block all pay-per-view porn channels! He was spending $30-40 per month for porn...plus the $16 for the playboy channel!!!

We actually haven't watched porn now in close to a year. I think it was a phase! LOL

[~Nicole~]

LOL! What great timing for this thread to come up! Both FI and I were at Bachelorette and Bachelor parties this past weekend for our mutual friends that are getting married this upcoming weekend. It definitely urks me that he goes but I would NEVER say that to him (besides, he barely ever goes so it wouldn't be worth it to even fight over). I always say that I'd be mad if he felt like he had to hide it and I would expect him to be open and honest with me as that's how I am with him. I do however let him know that the whole lapdance and touchy touchy stuff is NOT cool with me, lol. I would feel totally disrespected KWIM?

 

So, us girls went to Niagara for a night and of course, made a stop at the strip club! LOL! None of us had ever been before and it was freakin hilarious! Actually, I would definitely say that it is WAY worse than what our men go see that's for sure! So it was sort of funny to see FI on a bit of the jealous side.

[jk1101]

I've never really minded anyone I've dated going to a strip club. They always came home to me in a "good" mood, if you know what I mean and I've always felt I had a better chance of getting picked up/hit on in a regular bar or club than he would in a strip club. I've gone to strip clubs with an ex, and been friends with some dancers, and they are only in that job for one thing...CASH...they don't want your man...they don't really want him to touch them, and they are just using their body to get more money.

FI isn't into going to them at all, he thinks it's a waste of money.

 

I know he watches porn, I think every guy does, but I'm just not into it...I could care less if he watches it...I know he loves and wants me, and that's all that matters.