Resort of my choice or resort that everyone can afford???

[Marianna]

Thanks girlssss. i guess i have to start making that list and at the end think about my FI and I. Just hard when everyone tries to put their two cents in. Sooo annoying. People that know nothing about DW all of a sudden become experts.

[nicmicj]

I'm glad you were able to make a decision that worked out for all those involved and a decision that you were happy with in the end!

[cougs]

no matter what you choose you won't please everyone so do what *you* want. i took price for our guests into consideration because it was very important to us that our close family and friends were with us. we actually *wanted* them all at the same resort with us (i know, we're insane, LOL). like harty, part of our reason for dreams was children, and i don't think any are coming. in fact, the people we did the most to accommodate are the ones who now won't be coming. we just got lucky that in the process of trying to make others happy, we still ended up with a resort we loved.

 

just make sure your wedding resort will allow you to get married there even if the majority of your guests stay elsewhere. i think some places insist on 80% of your wedding guests staying on property. and like others have said, make sure guests staying elsewhere are aware of the cost of day passes ... it could end up they aren't actually saving that much by staying somewhere else, between transportation to and from the resort and the day pass, ya know?

[sunsetbride1]

I agree with the most everyone's sentiments!!

 

We was actually struggling with the same issue.. we ended up choosing a more cost-effective resort so we can be with our family/friends! For our needs, having a big party for a week with our 'nearest and dearest' is more important than having a more 'posh' resort with perhaps more beautiful/romantic scenery (e.g. for me.. no kids LOL).

 

I am considering adding a few days to our trip and for the last few days after everyone leaves spending a few days at a luxury resort/spa just for honeymoon romance.

 

It's completely up to you!! If you have fallen completely in love with a place and that's where you picture getting married; it is YOUR wedding! People can stay at another more cost-effective resort.. perhaps provide them with information for an alternate less costly resort and your resort of choice so they can decide for themselves.

[JamaicaBride2009]

My FI and I struggled with this as well. We ended up choosing Beaches (a resort that would include children) for the wedding... and Sandal for the honeymoon. We got everything we wanted... we accomodated our guests and got a secret, romantic, kid-free honeymoon!!

[Jen_S]

I agree with the other girls. For us it was important to find a resort with a good rating and a good price so our guests can come. Our resort then offers us options to make it the wedding we wanted. Good Luck!

[kate.com]

Just remember that you can't please everyone. Do you have a budget yet? You will have to factor in the cost of a day pass or whatever.

There isn't an easy answer, but make sure you two are happy! People will complain no matter what!

[reevesbride]

I too had the same problem and when it was all said and done I choose to have my wedding where I originally wanted to have it. The reality is you can't do this day over if you dont get it right the first time. So make your decision based on what you want. Most of your family will do there best to be there an if you have to shell out some money for guest passes for other important people budget that in as you plan your wedding. Hope this helps!

[Erica053009]

I don't think it is etiquette that matters but what you really want. I wanted our families to meet and spend time getting to know each other so I had to give up my dream resort and choose the resort that everyone can afford but at least we are all together

[jreule]

I really struggled with this as well. I spent two or three months just trying to find the "perfect resort" and ended up going with the cheaper resort. I am so happy I did. Some of my relatives and friends that I would have never imagined could come have decided that they are coming. It means so much to me that I don't even care that I have the resort of my dreams. Plus we are going to my dream resort for our honeymoon!