FIL vent!!!!! sorry!!!!!

LEIGH · March 20, 2007

Is it just me, or do any of you have issues with your FI sisters? My FI as 4 sisters and the youngest (His little sister 2 is the biggest baby with him. You know, neither one of us has ever been jealous of the other...But for some reason I am of her! His own sister! I guess I feel threatened by her and thats why I feel this way.

She has two kids, a cheating husband, and neither one of her parents to help keep her in line. She also has burned several bridges with my FI and their friends in the past year that we are best friends with. (they used to be best friends and room mates with the people that I happen to be best friends with now) She just has no respect for anyone, and it's always about her! VERY SELFISH!!!! She has never been taught not to run all over somebody. Since she is obviously the baby in the family, everyone just "let's" her get away with acting this way. Not to mention that her kids are as bad as she is!

The thing that bothers me the most is that my FI just continues to treat her like his "little sister"! Come on, she is 28 years old and has her own family!! Suck it up sister! She has made all of these choices for her self, and I don't feel bad for her a bit! She calls him all hours of the day, emails him and wants to know if he is mad at her because he never "hangs" out with her and her family anymore. He pretty much tells her that she is the one that made the decision to move over an hour away from him and their "friends" and that she shouldn't be jealous of anything that goes on that she isn't involved with anymore. Not to mention that my FI has grown up, and has his OWN family now!!!!!

Ok, I feel better at the moment! Sorry! Thanks to all of you to take the time to read this!

MelissaH · March 20, 2007

I have a HUGE issue with FI's sister....she's a bitch, plain and simple.

I'm civil to her, but I in no way like her...or even anything about her.

And I've tried and tried to give her the benefit of the doubt but it's just not working.

Prime example...at my bachelorette party she was a good half hour late for dinner, she blamed it on everyone else but herself, she ragged me out in front of all my friends because she couldn't find the restaurant (she walked by the window 3 times...we sat and watched her), after dinner we went salsa dancing...she didn't want to dance, she stood by herself and looked miserable the whole time, then we went to another club and the bartenders really sucked...they were super slow...well somehow it became my fault that she had to wait to get a drink...she literally grabbed me by the arm, dragged me aside and yelled at me because she had to wait to get a drink.

That's what i have to put up with every time i'm with her It's like give it up already, life is not that awful, ya know?

Bah sorry I just totally hijacked your thread, but what I'm trying to say is you're not alone hun....you just kind of have to put her on ignore I think.

She obviously thinks that the world owes her something. Don't feel threatened by her, you're better than that!

TammyB · March 20, 2007

Well Cain is an only child. But when we first started dating I thought his family was always #1 and then I was #2. It took me a very long time to get used to the idea that he would do anything for his family. Now almost 3 years later I have learned that he is very protective of his family and feels he needs to be there for them (even more so with his Ma) But I know now that he would do the same for me. Some guys are just very protective of their family, we may not understand it but it's actually a very good thing beause he will be like that with you as well. (if he needed to be)

LEIGH · March 20, 2007

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Originally Posted by TAMMYM

Well Cain is an only child. But when we first started dating I thought his family was always #1 and then I was #2. It took me a very long time to get used to the idea that he would do anything for his family. Now almost 3 years later I have learned that he is very protective of his family and feels he needs to be there for them (even more so with his Ma) But I know now that he would do the same for me. Some guys are just very protective of their family, we may not understand it but it's actually a very good thing beause he will be like that with you as well. (if he needed to be)

Yeah, you girls are right. Bryan is an all around nice guy, and everyone always like him! It just kills me that his own sister takes advantage of him the way that she does!

*JillD* · March 20, 2007

My FI has one sister & 3 brothers. He would do anything in the world for them especially because one of his brothers was killed in a car accident when he was 19, just a few years ago, and steve still has a lot of anger & sadness about the accident, even though it had nothing to do with him, but it was his little brother. So, steve is very protective of his little sister, but they got into a fight about a month ago and don't talk anymore. They used to talk a few times a week, they were very close, but then she started psychoanalyzing everything he does (she's a psychology major graduating this year) this really irritated him, which I can understand because she said a lot of hurtful things that were completely off base to him & me. So yes, my FI's sister, while she is a good person and I do love her, she really annoys me sometimes!

MikkiStreak · March 20, 2007

I had some jealousy during the first 2 years we were together where one of Frank's sisters were concerned. It drove me crazy that she would call him every day to get him to do things she didn't want to do---- like take her trash out and throw it over the fence to the alley, or mow the lawn, or do this and that. And she would always call very early in the morning, but demand the stuff be done that day. If we had plans that contradicted what she wanted, she would act all huffy about it until he gave in and went to do what she wanted. In fact, I remember one time Frank and I went to his niece's birthday party and we had a card for his niece with some money in it. Then she starts opening presents and his sister had come alone and signed the card from her and Frank. I think that was my final straw and I told him that she was treating him like her husband, not her brother.

But this was something he had to deal with in his own way and in his own time. When we were first seeing each other, he felt guilty about not being there as much for his family as he had previously. When he started getting over the guilt, he started standing up to her more often and setting guidelines when she needed help with stuff.

Now, things are more normal. Well, except when it comes to her trying to talk us into getting married at the cathedral where she works instead of on a beach.