how do you do a registry for a DW?

[nanihill1]

Hi –

 

What is the proper etiquette of giving out registry information for a DW? I’m planning to include the registry info. in the invitations being sent a month prior to the wedding as well as list it on our website, but I wanted to know if anyone had additional information/ideas of how to do this more so for guest that are unable to attend the wedding. And most importantly how do I communicate to wedding guests to NOT bring gifts with them to the actual wedding but instead ship it to us at home (how do I word this on the invitation)?

 

Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

[cougs]

i think it's generally seen as poor etiquette to include registry information in your wedding invitations. registry information normally is included in bridal shower invitations only.

 

of course, everything with destination weddings is a little different. LOL

 

i personally did not include it in my invites, but i do have registry info posted on our wedding website.

[cougs]

oh i wanted to add that people bringing gifts to your destination will most likely not be a problem, with the recent added charges on luggage! as for mailing, i think most people would think it unwise to mail something to a destination you will only be at for maybe a week.

[Oscar_Ernie]

I agree with PP. I think including your registry info on your wedding website is generally an accepted way of doing it. (Of course, word-of-mouth is always the best way!) I would hope that guests would have enough sense NOT to bring gifts, but just in case, I'll be adding this onto my website as well. The stores you register at should have the appropriate mailing address on your lists for your guests to use. Hopefully, those who won't be attending will pay attention to this. Hope this helps.

[~Kate~]

In my neck of the woods it is generally considered poor etiquette to include the registry info in your invites, since you aren't supposed to look like you're asking for gifts. But if it is common around your area, this would definitely get the word out.

 

I have definitely seen registry info on DW websites and in shower invites (since they are sent by someone other than the bride).

 

I agree with what everyone has said - don't worry about ppl bringing gifts to the DW - my WC said in all the weddings she's done, no one brings gifts. You might get some cards, but if people are planning on getting you a gift they will send it to you at home.

[Karen]

I second everything Mummergirl said. I think posting your registries on your website and including registry cards in your shower invites are the best way to go about it.