Pre Marital Counseling?

[kay726]

Did anyone have pre marital counseling yet? If so, what did you think of it. We are starting our counseling this Saturday with the Pastor from my childhood church which I have not attended in like 8 years .

[Nrvsbride]

I have not started yet but my FI and I are doing pre-canor with our church. I hope it will be helpful. As soon as I start I will post my experiences.

 

-Glenda

[Jen]

I don't think we are doing Pre-Marital counseling but I have been on the other end, actually being the counselor....and I have to tell you, it is one of my favorite therapy modalities!!! Its VERY useful and I would highly recommend it! I would also recommend the book "The Hard Questions" (can't think of the author....its on Amazon.com) its "100 questions you should ask before getting married" and it is a phenomenal book! I use it with all my pre-marital couples and Matt and I have started it also. Its a real eye-opener sometimes

[kay726]

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Originally Posted by Jen I don't think we are doing Pre-Marital counseling but I have been on the other end, actually being the counselor....and I have to tell you, it is one of my favorite therapy modalities!!! Its VERY useful and I would highly recommend it! I would also recommend the book "The Hard Questions" (can't think of the author....its on Amazon.com) its "100 questions you should ask before getting married" and it is a phenomenal book! I use it with all my pre-marital couples and Matt and I have started it also. Its a real eye-opener sometimes

Thanks Jen! Are you in the psychlogy or social work field?

[Jen]

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Originally Posted by kay726 Thanks Jen! Are you in the psychlogy or social work field?

Yep My degree and licensure is in "Marital and Family therapy"....currently I work with children at a Domestic Violence clinic.....

[LCBride2007]

Just from the title it sounds like a good book. Often times couples, especially those that haven't lived together or haven't lived on their own, dont think about how they our their spouse will handle the day-to-day tasks and stresses that will come up. Getting these questions out in the open early is ALWAYS a good idea!

[jpkw]

My friends used that book and loved it. I need to go buy it - thanks for the reminder!!!

 

We are going to an engagement encounter weekend this coming weekend at his mom's church. We initially signed up to please his mom but I'm really glad we are doing it and have heard great things about it. As others said, I think getting the hard questions / difficult topics out in the open is always good! I'll let you know how it goes.

[lambert13]

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Originally Posted by Jen I don't think we are doing Pre-Marital counseling but I have been on the other end, actually being the counselor....and I have to tell you, it is one of my favorite therapy modalities!!! Its VERY useful and I would highly recommend it! I would also recommend the book "The Hard Questions" (can't think of the author....its on Amazon.com) its "100 questions you should ask before getting married" and it is a phenomenal book! I use it with all my pre-marital couples and Matt and I have started it also. Its a real eye-opener sometimes

Karen and I were reading that book yesterday together. She picked it up a while back and has had nothing but good to say about it so far.

[kay726]

I will go get the book today.Thanks everybody!

[Rachelle E.]

We did pre-marital counseling with my childhood pastor. At first I thought it might be kind of weird since I'm not really religious. But I'm very comfortable with him and David really likes him too.

 

Anyway, just wanted to say that religious beliefs and all that aside...it was a great experience. We really liked it a lot. We had already talked about a lot of the topics he brought up, but it was great having an outside perspective on the things that we seem to keep hashing over! ;-)

 

I say go for it!