What to say during the Sand Ceremony

[Archie510]

Hello Ladies,

I just purchased my Sand Ceremony Kit and got 3 different colors for the vase.

 

This is something new that I have never seen any one do it, but i have heard of it and I'm going to do it.

 

what exactly do you say and do ....

.....and when do you do it?

Before or after the vows

 

Help pls....

 

Thanks Ladies!

[lmg970]

if you do a search on google it will come up with many sites for the vows/wordings with the ceremony, we plan to do this my son to include him in the ceremony.

[TATrisha]

Here is what I did.

I had my husband walk arm in arm down the aisle with both the moms. Then when they got to the alter they each poured a container of sand (white) into the vase. Then they hugged and kissed Shawn and sat down.

Then after the official portion of our ceremony we were allowed to incorporate our sand ceremony. So my aunt read and Shawn and I poured the sand. I loved it. We played the song Bless the Broken Road, so I found this reading to be the most appropriate.

 

"There is a song that speaks of “a long and winding road” and before you met, your lives were on such a road... each going in different directions and seemingly leading to different destinations. But somewhere along the way you took a fork in the road to a destination called “love” and today you find yourselves standing together at the entrance of a new path that will join your once separate journeys into one.

 

Before each of you there is a container of sand. Each container represents the separate journeys you once were on. They also represent your own sets of friends and families that once were apart. I will ask that in a moment you both blend your individual container of sand together... representing the coming together of your friends and family, through your marriage, into one. And as the sand is blended into one container, your once solitary journeys will now be one of companionship, as you walk a single path together into your future.

 

I now ask that you blend your containers of sand together.

 

As the sand has blended together, your lives are now joined. Your friends and family are as one as well, for now you will share those who are in your lives and will walk hand-in-hand along the path of your marriage - united and strong as husband and wife."

[RubyRed]

Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage. But although you will be sharing one life, never forget you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow. Grow sometimes together, sometimes separately. To symbolize the importance of the individuals within the marriage and the joining of two lives into one entity, 3 colors of sand will now be layered into a base.(Trista is handed a clear jar of Pink Sand, Ryan is handed a clear jar of Blue Sand. The minister has one small clear jar filled with a Neutral color sand and a large empty jar). The Minister speaks again: We begin with a layer of Neutral Sand which symbolizes that the marriage is grounded. (The Minister pours a little of the Neutral Sand into the large jar) Then we layer the individual colors. This symbolizes that the marriage is based on the strength of the individuals. (Ryan poured a little of the Blue Sand in first, followed by a little more of the Neutral Sand from the minister. Trista then added a little of the Pink Sand, followed by some additional Neutral Sand from the minister). And now we combine the color, which symbolizes two lives joined as one together forever. (Ryan and Trista simultaneously pour their remaining sand into the large jar until their jars are empty. The minister caps off the sand with the last of the Neutral Sand. The minister then holds the large jar up as if presenting to the wedding audience and places the jar to the side).

[cougs]

Tlseege, i really like that wording with all the "journey" and "destination" stuff in it ... seems appropriate for a destination wedding, if you know what i mean!

 

the following is what the wedding coordinator at dreams cancun sent me:

 

"_________________ & _______________, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, ______________ and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, _________________ and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be."

 

not sure i love it with all the stuff about you no longer existing as individuals ... i like the other one better!

[Cattie]

Here's a site I found with a few different options. I'm still not sure which we're going to use.

 

Wedding Sand Ceremony | Sand Ceremony Vows, Wedding Officiant, Marriage License Services

 

Hope this helps!

[courtney]

Great ideas!! This really helps.

[Rheannarudy]

Thanks for the ideas!

[081114OVCUBA]

I know this is an old thread, too, but here is our script in case anyone is currently looking, its a combination of several found on here and online:

Sand Ceremony

(After vows and rings but before the pronunciation of Husband/wife and kiss)

_____(Groom) & _______(Bride),

As you stand beside the ocean, may your love always be as constant as the tide; waves flowing endlessly from the depths of the sea. Just as water is the eternal force of life, so is love. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage.

You have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings. But although you will be sharing one life, never forget that you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow.

We now celebrate _____(Groom) and _____(Bride)'s union with a symbolic sand ceremony. (Sand Ceremony Table brought over by ________)

First, we will ask the Bride’s and Groom’s parents (B&G parents come up) to pour sand from this beautiful beach where _____(Groom) and _____(Bride) stand today as they commit their lives to each other, representing the strong foundation of their relationship. (B&G parents pour sand) This foundation includes their families, their upbringing, and all the important steps on their journeys that led them to be who they are today. This foundation will support them in their love as they grow and change together. (B&G parents be seated)

_____(Groom) and _____(Bride), today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. This commitment is symbolized through the pouring and combining of these of these individual containers of sand. Each container represents the separate journeys you once were on. (B&G take turns pouring/layering sand) Each of you comes to this relationship with unique strengths, vulnerabilities, and histories. As individuals, you are beautiful people all on your own. Yet when the two of you are blended together, you form something even more beautiful. Those strengths can blossom and those vulnerabilities cared for. They also represent your own sets of friends and families, which until today were apart from each other. Each one holds its own unique beauty, strength, and character. They can stand on their own and be whole, without need of anything else.
However when these two are blended together they create and entirely new and extraordinarily more intricate entity, as symbolized by the new blended colour. (Both B&G pour sand together)

As the sand has blended together, your lives too are joined. Your once solitary journeys have become one of companionship, as you now set forth on a single path together into your future. Your friends and family are as one as well. You will now share those who are a part of your lives as you walk hand-in-hand. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual vases, so will the love and bond between the two of you render you inseparable.

[kmk2016]

Thanks for this! Originally I was against doing a sand ceremony- but then I saw the thread where everyone present poured sand in to be the foundation- and I really liked that- so I may reconsider doing one after all and a good script will help!

 

Has anyone successfully had their resort supplied officiant in a symbolic ceremony read the script? Did it all go smoothly or was some lost in translation?