Please help, stressed bride with a unique problem!

[~*Kathy*~]

Hello ladies!

 

Sorry if I post this in the wrong spot, I'm new here...

 

So here is my dilemma, and if anyone here has been in this situation before, maybe you can give me some insight...I hope.

 

My fiance who I have been dating for 8 years finally proposed to me on Aug 19/08, due to a number of scheduling issues, as well as my (selfish I guess?) wants, it was always in my mind and heart that I wanted to marry my fiance in 2009.

 

So this past week, I was able to secure a wedding date of Feb 19/09 at the Iberostar Paraiso Beach. The Iberostar's policy clearly states that they want their wedding couples to be at the resort at least four working days (not including arrival date and wedding date) to complete blood tests and paper work. We arrive at the resort on Feb 16/09 at 10 p.m. I spoke to my travel agent about this issue and she reassured me that our wedding coordinators at the Iberostar Paraiso Beach (Ms. Palacios and Ms. Ake if any here knows of them) said they would make an exception for us and expidite everything once we're down there.

 

However, I'm still very anxious about this....what if they decide two working days isn't enough time and tell us "no"? How will I know for sure everything is going to be ok? What if they say no once we get there and I just wasted 20 of my family and friends' time and money, it would be horrible. I guess I should add we're having a civil marriage. My TA also assured me that she would be getting a written confirmation from the wc next week and would pass it my way when she gets it. I just don't know...

 

Has anyone ever done this or know anyone who has? I need something to calm my paranoid fears. Sorry for the long post, looking forward to some insight though!

[jamisoncollette]

There is no way to change your arrival date? Having the policy waived in writing should be sufficient. I would keep all emails, obtain the written exception, and confirm, confirm, confirm! Everything will be fine

[~*Kathy*~]

No real way to change the flight as there aren't any rooms available the week before, sadly!

 

Yeah, I plan to confirm the heck out of this til the bitter end, and probably 5 minutes before we leave on Feb 16/09 lol. I just don't want to spend the next 5 months worrying about it but I'm afraid I will. Thanks for your input, I appreciate it!

[Erica053009]

I would try to change the arrival date if possible because the islands tend to tell you everything is ok and then it is not. My other words of wisdom is if anything you have an amazing wedding just as you imagine and if it can not be legal you can always go to city hall and have a legal day after.

[montegobay09]

I wish I could help. I have a similar problem. I booked my wedding for what I thought was 2 working days after our arrival date at the riu montego bay in jamaica. now i realized that one of those "working days" is easter monday and I don't know if it's enough time...let me know what you find out!!

[~*Kathy*~]

Thanks ladies, I will keep you all posted and I will try to have a waive of that policy in writing.

 

I totally agree how a lot of people in these places will tell you it's ok and then you get there and it's not, that's why I'm freaking out

[kate.com]

Good news: I have heard of them making exceptions at resorts before. I guess I don't know where your resort is, exactly, buy I know in some parts of mexico it is legally a 2 or 3 day policy... and the resort says 4 days for their own policy. So you might be able to confirm that.

Bad news: Sometimes in Islands/Mexico their word doesn't always hold up. So continue to confirm.

 

Either way, don't stress too much. You have your flight so it's done. If it isn't legal for some reason do it when you get back.

And if you are losing sleep over it, get legally married before you go. Im doing that for convenience and a guarantee that everything is in order legally. Not worried about it taking away from my DW either- more like a formality!

 

It WILL work out!

[Kat81]

It will all work out and if for some unknown reason someone says it isn't ok in the end you can just get legally married before you leave. That is what I did. And it was all fine and didn't take away at all from the real wedding in Cancun!!

[~*Kathy*~]

Thanks Kate, hearing this from you makes me feel better about it already.

 

Thanks Kat, that thought had crossed my mind too I will continue to confirm and if I find out before I leave that it won't work, I'll get married here and have a symbolic ceremony there. If I found out after I get there that it's not ok, FI were thinking and hoping we can have a symbolic ceremony there and get married here when we get home.

 

Do any of you ladies know for the symbolic ceremonies if there's always a minister on the resort (even when not needed) to perform the ceremony?

 

Thanks again everyone, this site is awesome and you're all so fabulous and supportive!

[kate.com]

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Originally Posted by paraisobeachbride2009 Thanks Kate, hearing this from you makes me feel better about it already. Thanks Kat, that thought had crossed my mind too I will continue to confirm and if I find out before I leave that it won't work, I'll get married here and have a symbolic ceremony there. If I found out after I get there that it's not ok, FI were thinking and hoping we can have a symbolic ceremony there and get married here when we get home. Do any of you ladies know for the symbolic ceremonies if there's always a minister on the resort (even when not needed) to perform the ceremony? Thanks again everyone, this site is awesome and you're all so fabulous and supportive!

Believe me, they wouldn't want to lose your business! There WILL be a wedding! Now, get some sleep tonight!