What relaxation methods do you use when the going gets tough?

[~Melissa~]

Just was wondering what you ladies do to relax when you're getting to the breaking point?

 

I've been so busy and stressed lately with training a new girl at work, packing my stuff, getting rid of furniture, dealing with my stupid FSIL, and most of all wedding planning! My life is nuts dude! I've had a splitting head ache all friggin day and it won't go away no matter how much advil I've popped. Decided to have a bath and pour these salts in the bath that my FH got me. They are supposed to take away stress? Didn't really work... I guess it helped though.

 

Any of you meditate? Perhaps I should bring out the pilates video.... I don't know but I do know most of you gals are stressed out as well. So I'm just wondering how do you deal with it all and not lose it?!

[deleted]

Hmmmm I like to go running (like in a park or somewhere quiet). Or swim laps. Or take a nap. Get a manicure or pedicure. Could you get a massage, even for 30 mins?

[weez]

Alcohol, and lots of it ! Just kidding but right now its the only thing thats keeping me from snapping! A big glass of wine at night helps a lot! Hehehe! This site also relly calm me down its nice to know others are going through the same stress' as me! Hope you feel better soon though?

[TOESNTHESND]

Well that depends on how much energy I have. If I am not too tired I will lift and run my brains out. Sometimes at work I just swear like a truck driver when no one is around, or if I am at home a long shower and a glass of wine. Either way this hard time will pass for you and everything that you are doing now will make things much better in the end for you and your FI.

[lulubelle]

If I am angry stressed...then I work out like a mad woman.

If I am overwhelm stressed...then a glass of wine, a good book and a hot bath always distracts me and helps me sleep.

[gkashmira]

I've been feeling prettty stresseed recently myself - though just with too many work projects and the wedding stuff. I find a few things help:

 

1. yoga class - I always feel good after I've sweated and stretched and meditated a bit. This one seems to work for work stress and other stresses too.

 

2. get Fi to give me a back rub. This feels great in so many ways - for one it's actually physically relaxing to have tight muscles rubbed. Also it's nice to be close to my FI and three it'sd nice to know someone cares about YOu and is there foe you when you feel bad or sad and it makes you feel better to be taken care of.

 

3. Girls night with a few close friends and a bottle of wine, perhaps some tasty food and cheesy TV (like Top Model, or the Bachelor, or some chic flick)

 

4. A long, hot shower

 

5. A good cry - sometimes you just need to let it out! This works best if it's on your FIs shoulder so he can make you feel better.

 

Hang in there, you're so close!

[MarryingMyLove]

Massage! if you are lucky or even just a manicure

[Rachelle E.]

I too am a fan of the "big glass of wine" remedy! lol!

 

But serisously, if you can I would definitely reccomend getting a massage. Even if it's just 30 minutes you're away from everything, surrounded by quiet soothing sounds and for just a little while someone is focused completely on making you relax and feel good.

 

If you don't have the time, $$ or whatever to go get a massage, lock yourself in your bathroom and take a hot bath, drink something yummy (ideally alcoholic!) light some candles and maybe even play some music to cover up sounds like the phone ringing etc. Maybe get one of those little eye pillows or gel eye mask thingys too...I find those really soothing and if you chill it first it feels really good to be in a hot bath with a cool mask on your eyes!

 

Ok, last one...and maybe this only works for me...lol! But, I actually like to have an alone date every so often. I'll actually go to lunch somewhere that I really like or don't go to often and then I LOVE seeing a movie on my own! One of the theaters I like to go to actually has a Cheesecake Factory right next to it, so I'll get a slice of cheesecake and a coffee to go and take it in the movie with me.

 

I hope some of our ideas help and you start feeling a little better soon!!

[arribidibi]

As a truck driver (one of many that doesn't swear) and living in a rolling shoe box plus trying to plan a wedding while on the road -- stress is my middle name -- I highly recommend a good massage or candlelit soak maybe with a glass of wine -- I personally spend time with my dog walking or just goofing off -- she always makes me smile!!!!

 

[Christine]

take a walk, take a bath, watch one of my favorite movies, play on the forum