How to address to . . .

[luvtoteachlaw]

A legally married gay couple? My fiancee's cousin is from MA where gay marriage is legal. I am in a position where I don't know exactly if his spouse took the cousin's last name, or how to properly address the save the date cards. I mean, for hetero couples, it is "Mr. and Mrs" . . . what do you do for a "Mr. and Mr." if they are married?

 

Thanks in advance for your help!

[stacey]

oooohhh that a new one. I havent seen that one in the etiquette books yet. I dont have a clue, sorry.

[Banana11]

I think you could just ask what last name they are using? And then maybe do The Johnson Family for example.

[amyh]

This is what I found by googling:

 

Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first.

 

Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first).

 

Gay Married Couple with the same last name

Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John

Inner: The Messrs. John

Gay Married Couple with different last names

Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish

Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

[lmg970]

I do know a few who have married here in mass, but each have different with their last names. but it is generally mr and mr or mrs and mrs, but I do see your dilema

[Erica053009]

I would just do ...Mr. John Smith & Mr. Don Smith

[rodent]

Quote:

Originally Posted by amyh This is what I found by googling: Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first. Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first). Gay Married Couple with the same last name Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John Inner: The Messrs. John Gay Married Couple with different last names Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

is messrs plural for mr? I have not seen that yet. I guess mrs doesnt work for mr x 2.

[Morton-Woods]

If they have the same last name you could put Mr. John and Jack Smith if they have different last names then i would list them both

[Celina]

Quote:

Originally Posted by amyh This is what I found by googling: Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first. Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first). Gay Married Couple with the same last name Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John Inner: The Messrs. John Gay Married Couple with different last names Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

Amy is a Google-n' Girl!

You know, I have an aunt who got legally married to her partner. I sent the invitation to Mrs. & Mrs. Giron-Smith (since they didn't change their last names) I put my aunts last name first.

[EricaG]

That is something that I never thought of. That is something that will have to be added into the ettiquette books.