my mom wants to wear white...

[cougs]

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Originally Posted by starchild I don't really see it as a big deal. Nobody will mistake her for the bride and a DW is non-traditional in itself, so don't feel the need to apply tradition when it comes to your mom and what she wants to wear. It sounds like you don't think it is a big deal either, but you may be concerned that 'people' will talk or say it is not right. We get overwhelmed with wedding things so I understand the question, but imho this doesn't matter. Many brides have mothers who are dead or not involved in their lives...if their mothers made it to their weddings I bet they wouldn't care what color outfit they put on. Just a thought

thanks, you kinda said what i was trying to say (that "people" might talk even if she the bride had no problem with it), but your way came off much nicer and much simpler ... in hindsight what i said sounded a little nasty and i didn't mean it that way at all.

and as for the perspective you had at the end ... that's the way i feel. i just want my mother THERE ... she keeps asking what color she should wear and is it ok if she wears pants and i keep telling her to just wear whatever makes her feel beautiful and comfortable that day. we almost lost her in a car accident last year, so what she wears is the least of my concern!

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by mummergirl thanks, you kinda said what i was trying to say (that "people" might talk even if she the bride had no problem with it), but your way came off much nicer and much simpler ... in hindsight what i said sounded a little nasty and i didn't mean it that way at all. and as for the perspective you had at the end ... that's the way i feel. i just want my mother THERE ... she keeps asking what color she should wear and is it ok if she wears pants and i keep telling her to just wear whatever makes her feel beautiful and comfortable that day. we almost lost her in a car accident last year, so what she wears is the least of my concern!

Oh no, I didn't think you sounded nasty at all! This topic comes up often and I just hate to see people get so wrapped up in what they think they should do so that's my 2 cents on it. I'm glad your mother will be at your wedding, especially after almost losing her...I can't even imagine going through that! Now that's perspective!

[trophywife]

I wouldn't want anyone else to wear white (or shades near it) aside from me on my big day.. I always imaged like a more formal attire, but now that we've decided on a DW at the beach, what do guest tend to wear that's NOT white?? A lot of formal weddings wear like red or white, but for a fun DW?? What color and outfit style is acceptable for guests??

[Hartyt509]

I'm not bothered what anyone wears, what can I say i'm on black with snakes and FI is in a kilt lmao Only thing I have asked is that no-one wear pink but thats just because I hate the freaking colour lol

 

I one way I'm hoping FMIL wears pink so that I can rip her a new one lmao FI better get his lot told mine have been and fully understand lol

 

I found some black flip flops with skulls on thought my aunt was going to have a coronary lmao She just took a deep breath and said if thats what you like sweetheart lmao

[lizcolgin]

OK, I have to be honest...when I first read that your mom was wearing white I thought it was truly no big deal. I have to admit, I had a shower a few months ago and my stepmother wore white. Guess who got most of the wrath of the crowd that was at the shower...ME! Here's the thing, if she wears white, you will have a ton of people coming up to you going "OMG I can't believe she is wearing white" and you will have to deal with it all night long. Is it really worth the stress of the evening? Just a thought. You may want to address it now rather than have to deal with a ton of people trying to say something about it. Hope this helps.

[starchild]

I still say so what! If guests are tacky enough to come up to a bride at her wedding and try to get her worked up about what her mom is wearing...well that's their malfunction and just another way of detracting from the bride. To each their own when it's their party, but they can't go applying their social standards to other people's weddings and then throwing them in the bride's face, at the wedding no less!

 

If I had those kind of guests I would have told them that they need to be sipping a cocktail and watching the tropical sunset. It's a celebration for goodness sake! I bet none of this will matter because it would take a pretty miserable guest to be in paradise and not chill out and enjoy things.

 

Harty, rock the skull flip flops! It's your day