Who Pays for Bachelorette Party?

[Davematthews16]

I've googled this but am wondering what you guys are doing/have done. I know that the bride isn't supposed to pay for anything, but I'm worried about the guests having to. We're doing the whole "go down-town and get shit-faced thing, and are renting a limo." I would personally rather fork out $100.00or whatever to make sure it's taken care of. (I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable) How are you all handling this?

[beachbride08]

For the bachelorette parties that I have planned or been invited to, there is usually a per person cost if you are going out somewhere. That cost covers whatever the bride would have had to pay. If it is at someone's house the bridal party will usually split the cost of food and drinks or whatever is involved with that.

 

I personally didn't want to have a bachelorette party because I only have two girls standing up, and didn't want them spending any more money. I wanted to just spend time with them in Mexico, however, they felt it necessary to throw me a bachelorette party. I don't know what they are planning at this point, but I fully intend on throwing some money at them to cover my share. If they take it from me will be the question.

[Kelly C]

My girls aren't letting me pay for anything. So....I'm going to give my mom $100 too give them. They can't tell her "NO".

[cheese_diva]

Even though you might feel it's an additional burden on your guests/bridesmaids I bet they're looking forward to a wild night/girls bonding night too... Many of them may already be married and not able to do such things normally.

 

My bridesmaids organized my party and keeping in mind they wanted to keep costs down, they had everyone pay for their own train ticket, wine tasting, and drinks afterwards. Then we went back to one of the girl's house and some people brought food.. I think the bridesmaids came up with a fairly reasonable per person fee that took everything into account. (Each girl had a shirt made too)..

[Rachelle E.]

I have to say I agree w/ Angela. I think you need to just let your girls do what they want to for you. They're trying to do something nice and although you feel you're being helpful by offering money, it's borderline insulting. It would be like offering to pay them back for the wedding gift, b-day gift etc that they bought you. You have good intentions, not wanting to put them out but really, it's their thing. You're supposed to sit back and enjoy!! And of course return the favor if/when one of them gets married! You wouldn't want your friend's to pay for their own bach party...why do you think they would want you to?

 

All that being said, I did keep attempting to buy rounds of drinks for everyone at my bach party...I got shut down every time though! lol! So I understand what you're saying...and maybe you can talk them into letting you buy a round of drinks or shots as a "thank you" for the great party. :-)

[Davematthews16]

Thanks girls! I just have a hard time "not-worrying" about it!!! I trust my girls, and since only two of them are coming to the wedding, I KNOW they are stoked about the big girls night out!

[1elephant]

i only had 3 girls standing up for me, but there were 7 at my party. 4 of us stayed in a hotel for the night, and the three of them split the cost ($80/pp?). they bought drinks all night, and wouldn't let me buy a single drink. let them do what's right for them, and offer money, even tho they won't take it.

[rodent]

it's usually split with all the guests & the MOH or another BM organizes.

 

I didn't want people spending money on mine, so we just had a house party. we had a great time.

[Virg]

I organized and paid for most of my SIL bachelorette party. I was also a BM, but not the MOH (out of town MOH).

However, we had a stripper instructor come and everyone (except bride) gave 30$, and it was AWESOME!

[Hartyt509]

I'm paying for me - think we are going to Amsterdam and I'll probably end up organising it because my m8s are shite and will leave it all to the last minute lol They've no choice then I just get what they owe off them lol