What causes people to chronically oversleep their alarms?

[ashrose]

So I wasn't sure where to post this... but you ladies seem to know everything, so I thought I'd throw this out there.

 

My FI is a busy guy... aside from working full time, he goes to school, manages me (I'm a lot of work), is trying to become a competitive ballroom dancer, is trying to live in community with folks at church, and is trying to manage family drama. It's a lot of work.

 

He is able to phyiscally do it because he works 6:00am to 2:30pm.

 

Problem is... he is late to work at least once a week, sometimes more... and the rest of the time he wakes in such a panic that he never has a good morning. He constantly oversleeps his alarm... or turns them off in his sleep. At one point, I set my alarm and would call him to wake him up because I was working a similar schedule... this has stopped working cause he "doesn't hear his phone."

 

He is on the verge of getting fired for poor attendance... which, makes sense... showing up anywhere from 15minutes to 2 hours late once a week isn't acceptable.

 

Any ideas on what could help him?

 

A lifestyle change is going to be rough cause he has to work and go to school... but ... yeah. It's a sticky situation. When I was in college I had to do the same thing... and while those years sucked, I could still wake up because I was running on determination to get through to the end of the tunnel.

[ashrose]

Oh, I forgot to mention that on the weekends he can sleep 14-16 hours a day... and still not wake up rested.

[MelanieS]

Sounds like he needs to take some vitamins, and put his alarm across the room so he HAS to get up to turn it off.

[ashrose]

He has 4 alarms. Two of them are across the room.

 

I'm not denying that nutrition could help...but he doesn't want to believe it has anything to do with anything.

[amesharpe]

I have the same problem. I one alarm clock next to my bed and another across the room. Both alarm clocks have two alarm functions. I set them to go off every 5 minutes until I turn it off, one is a buzzer and the other is set on static (extremely annoying).

 

I some how manage to hit the snooze button through this.

 

I also set the 3 alarms available on my cell phone and have that plugged in across the room.

 

I'm sure this will be awful fo you but it works for me.

[Davematthews16]

I don't know but when you find out please tell my FI. He does the SAME thing (except he isn't late because I'm always there to wake him up and he leaves before I do for work) Sometimes I'll be in the shower or outside walking the dog and I hear that damn alarm blaring! I walk in and he's sound asleep like a baby. Sorry I don't have much advice, but maybe your FI could start getting a massage once a week for relaxation?

[ashrose]

Oh, I'll kick him out of bed when we are married. We don't live together or sleep in the same bed now. He'd be in trouble.

 

I'm going to make that boy go get a sleep test. I can't have him not going to work.

 

I mean... once in a while is... well... no one is perfect. But once or more per week. There is something wrong.

[IslamoradaBride]

How many hours a night is he sleeping? It could simply be an issue of needing more sleep, period. If he's getting at least 7 hours or so, it may be time to have him get a sleep test. Does he snore?

 

Also, I totally believe that nutrition and overall health have a big impact on sleep, and vice versa. Sounds like he's getting a lot of exercise with the ballroom dancing, but I find that when I work out more, I need more sleep.

 

Honestly, he may need to drop one of the activities he's doing. With work, college, church, dancing, your relationship and wedding planning stack up, something's got to give!

[JoLo908]

My brother had to set four alarms to make sure he wakes up... I would say place a few alarms all over... so you have to get up and turn them ALL off...

[Hartyt509]

I have the same problem lol i'll be late for my own funeral i'm crap. Dad used to ring me every morning to get me up but i got to the stage where i could answer the phone in my sleep.

 

I think he needs to cut down what he's doing he's doing too much and its his body telling him to calm down