So Annoyed

[destinationbride07]

NOPE YOU ARE NOT MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF NOTHING.........THIS IS YOUR WEDDING!

 

sorry for shouting but you have every right to say something about your wedding....you want my advice tell them to KMA! lol lol

 

at this point that is my solution for everything! lol ol

[JulieG]

okay, I have not read anyone else's posts yet, so sorry if someone already said what I am going to say, but I want to tell you a story.

 

For my sister's wedding, one of her BM's caused me nothing but added stress. She hated all my idea's for the bachelorette and all the other BM's loved them. So, after stressing about it, I finaly replied to her last email and told her that I had enough. It was not her day it was my sister's day. And, she is my sisters friend and should do the things that makes my sister happy because its her wedding and her day. I also told her that she was being selfish and I was tired of trying to come up with something that she would not say no to. So, I said this is what we are doing and if you don't want to be there, that is your decision but, when you agreed to be a BM, you agreed to do all the things involved and the bachelorette is one of them.

 

I was harsh, but I am telling you, I had enough of her. My sister agreed with what I said, I asked her first, and actually said it was better if she did not come cause she would be worried about having to entertain her and make sure she was okay. And, she would have made it obvious that she was not happy to be doing it.

 

So, I say tell your MOH what you want to do most and those who do not want to come, that is up to them. You can't make everyone happy and this day is not about everyone, its about you. So, focus on making yourself happy for once. Your real friends will come and will have a good time because they want you to be happy.

 

That is just my 2 cents.

[~Melissa~]

No worries Sarah, you're not being unreasonable what so ever. This chicky sounds like she may be difficult to deal with. I think she needs to grow up a bit and take a steap back and realize she's being a cow (sorry had to say it). She should be honored to be in your wedding party. And the whole not being appreciative of her bridal shower gift: how horrible and rude! I don't like people that think they should be at the tops of everyones list and only their ideas are the workable ones. MEH - can u tell I have issues here? haha I just can't understand people like that.

 

BTW- I love the idea of the tarrot card lady! That would be soo cool and FUN!

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

Thanks guys for all your comments! I feel much better about it. I think I will tell my sister to say something to her and if see doest want to come them its her loss! We will have fun if she is there or not!

Sarah

[JulieG]

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Originally Posted by BEACHBRIDEMA Thanks guys for all your comments! I feel much better about it. I think I will tell my sister to say something to her and if see doest want to come them its her loss! We will have fun if she is there or not! Sarah

Good decision. You will have fun no matter what. Probably more fun without her. Don't worry, most wedding parties have at least one of those, its normal.

[JPMO]

I think $40 is more than reasonable. I have the same question as Tammy, maybe she can't afford it. She should just say that, however.

 

I would have a talk with the GF and basically lay it all out. She can sink or swim!

[EDYTA]

sorry I'm late to this but it's your day and you guys should do what you want to do and if she doesn't want to participate than that's her loss....dont stress k

[lulubelle]

I would not get involved, let your sister handle it. However, your sister should tell her that this is what she has planned and that you Love the idea. If she does not want to join in, tell her she will be missed. You just enjoy the day no matter what. Just make the decision that your happiness will not depend on the other members of your wedding. Just enjoy every moment of this experience and don't let anything get in your way. Before you know it, this will all be over so don't let someone ruin your time. Just my two cents.