So Annoyed

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

Okay, so my sister is planning my bachelorete party. I told her nothing too extravegant or expensive. She has thrown out a bunch of ideas to the other BM. Every idea she has this one BM seems to have a problem with. Either its too expensive, or not her taste. My sister just told me b/c she is super annoyed and doesnt know what to do. My sister said the girl who is causing all the problems just wants to go out for dinner. If you ask me thats not really a bachelorete party thats just a girls night. So my sisters latest suggestion which sounds really fun to me was to hire a lady to read tarrot cards and order in dinner and play fun games. Everyone thinks this is great and it only cost 40 bucks which is totally reasonable if you ask me. So this one BM says well I'll come but I dont want to participate and she also doesnt want to order in, she would rather if we all brough something. I am so annoyed with her. I feel like she is being totally selfish. I am in her wedding and havent caused any problems. I have taken 3 days off work for her wedding (which I am losing pay for) I hate the BM dresses but didnt say a word and spent a ton on her shower gift and she totally didnt even apprechiate it. I am just making a big deal out of nothing?

Sorry for the long vent but I just had to get it off my chest!

Feel much better now!

 

Sarah

[Christine]

well then maybe she doesn't need to come, or she can bring her own take out. I think tarot cards and ordering something sounds like a blast. you can play all those silly games and you will have so much fun.

as for your friend, she will realize she missed out on a lot of fun eventually but maybe she feels like your wedding and hers are somewhat competing and that can be really tough.

[TammyB]

Do you think she is being all fussy because she doesn't have the money? I think the tarrot card reading would be fun, granted I don't think it truly works but it would be fun to at least hear what they have to say..

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

I dont think she feels that our weddings are compititions. I just feel like she is a) cheap, I am sorry but $40 bucks is not that much money. If we went to a bar I am sure we would spend way more. kind of selfish. She is very closed minded and thinks her ideas are the best. I just think that sometimes you need to do things for others even if its not your idea of a good time. Thats a major part of being a good friend.

Sarah

[TammyB]

Well to be prefectly honest with you Cain's Aunt is getting married in May and for her batchlorette party she wants to go to some bad 80's band night... AND she's having it on Cains birthday. No i'm not looking forward to it, I hate 80's music, and I'd rather celebrate the day with Cain. BUT I'm going, I'll probably drink way to much in hopes that the band will sound better.. lol

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

See Tammy you are such a tropper!!!

Sarah

[Adamsgrrl]

Why don't you ask your sister to talk to this BM and see what her problem is.... I would be honest with her and tell her that this is not her Party, and that she should put her own opinions aside to make this the most memaroble event for you. Ask her how she would feel if someone did this to her. Hopefully she will come around and do whats best.

 

And if not, oh well, she doesn't need to come.... you don't need any negativity sorounding you.

 

Good Luck!! and hopefully it will turn out for the best.

[Rachelle E.]

Honestly...is the BM who's being difficult actually "in charge" of planning the party - or is your sis kind of "in charge"? If the consenus is that everyone else likes the idea and most importantly, you THE BRIDE, like the idea...then she really just needs to go with it. And she can do whatever she wants for her bachelorette party.

 

For mine, I put my MOH in charge of all that stuff...she and the other BM's worked it all out, but when it came down to it - she was the head honcho. So to speak.

 

Good lord...I sound kinda' stern! I don't mean to sound harsh, but the fact of the matter is that it's your wedding...and assuming you don't insist that all your friends dye their hair green and go to Prague with you to celebrate - they should really just do what YOU want.

[Nrvsbride]

What the deuce? Sorry to be rude but is your BM crazy? Does she not know that part of the job description of being a BM is wearing a dress that could potentially be heinous, having to put your hair into some weird hairdo that the bride likes, and doing whatever the BRIDE wants for her bachelorette party. I mean she is just being rude and inconsiderate. She herself is getting married, how would she like it if you knocked down all her bachelorette party ideas. And I'm sorry I like to save money but $40 is not a lot of money, she is just being cheap!!! Why is she acting this way? Someone needs to put her in her place!

 

-Glenda

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

I kind of want my sister to say something, but I know she will get really offended and get a dramatic. I just dont want to cause a fight over this. I guess she will just feel stupid if everyone is having a good time and she is just sitting there not enjoying herself

Sarah