What Kind of Couple are you and DH?

[Yari]

My FI travels a lot for work, pretty much every other week for one week straight. When he is home I take full advantage of it and we spend lots of time together. He texts me a lot during the work day, and he calls at least once. It depends on how busy we are, but we talk often on the phone at work.

 

We do our own thing too, like I have GNO's with my friends sometimes and he hangs with his guys. All in all it works for us.

[Bride010101]

FI and I are really close. We have been best friends, roommates, and classmates over the past 3 years. Up until this summer we have had virtually the same class schedule so we had the same hours free and study schedule. So we spent most of our time together and sometimes were considered being joined at the hip. That being said we have our own individual activities - school groups and friends - to have time apart. Last summer we had internships that kept us 3 hours apart and in our coming rotations we will be over 2 hours apart for another 6 months.... so our relationship has some changes ahead. For me it is tough to be apart even for weekends... so these next few months won't be fun. When we are apart we do talk on the phone daily though and send letters to help make it easier. : )

 

I think everybody had different needs... so thats why different relationships work for different people. One of my friends has asked me how I do it - being with Sean so much... she feels like she would feel suffocated. But for me, its when I'm happiest. : )

[Infinity22]

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Originally Posted by *Heather* Wow, well said! I couldn't agree more! I think it's a balance that each couple sorts through on their own, and figures out what works for them...

I actually re-read it and thought it needed a few changes to make it make more sense, so I did a few edits!

[Rachelle E.]

I would say DH and I are borderline joined at the hip! ;-) We are totally that sappy couple who at 10am are texting from work, "I miss you! Can't wait to see you later!" And we mean it! lol! We just seriously love being around each other. I would say we do most of our social "outings" together as a couple. But he's a pretty avid golfer so he does that w/ his friends and I'll either enjoy some alone time or make plans w/ my friends. I think we have a good balance. We each have a girls/boys weekend at least once a year or so and usually just being away from each other that night or two is enough! I guess if I had to quantify it somehow I'd say we're 70% conjoined and 30% independant. :-) Maybe 80/20 sometimes! LOL!

 

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My wife and I go through cycles where we talk a lot during the day and then some days we don't.

This is totally us too sometimes!

[seaprincess]

We are a talk 2 times a day, spend most of our free time together sort of couple. We enjoy keeping each other posted during the day, and relaxing at night. We do usually spend one evening on the weekend in, and the other out seperately with friends. He plays hockey an evening or two a week, and I work out 3-5 times a week, so we have our alone time too. We used to be long distance for 2 years, and it is much easier for us to stay healthy and connected as a couple when we spend face to face time. I notice more of a communication gap when life gets busy and we see each other less. We have a balance that works for us better than it has ever worked in the past. He's my best friend, so I love spending time with him, but we are both independant and need alone time and girlfriend/guy time too.

[boscobel]

Matt and I are a good combo of dependence and independence, I think. He works close to home (like 5 minutes) and I travel 1.5+ hours to and then the same home each day. I am a pretty solitary person, like I like to be home alone and read my book, or just be alone. Matt is so not like that. If he is home, he is like right beside me. He is such a social person (which helps me out in social situations, I think he has helped me relax a bit in those situations). But we do most stuff together. We go food shopping together, and if we go out, it is together. I live over an hour away from my friends, so if we hang out, it's mostly with his friends. Although, sometimes I chose to stay home and soak up my alone time!

 

Oh yeah, and we text all day long, but usually only talk once at lunch time.

 

I agree with the previous poster though, that each couple will find their own balance and what's normal for one might not be normal for another.

[Jacqueline]

Joe and I are together a lot. We have our own lives & friends that we hang out with but for the most part it's me and him, which I like. During the week we hang out a lot: watch movies, go to dinner, etc, but also thats when we tend to do our own thing. I'll go to my moms, or to a friends, he'll do the same. The weekends though we're normally together. As far as talking on phone- him and his family are big phone people, they are constantly on the phone w/ each other or texting, so he tends to do the same with me if I'm not with him. Though I dont like the phone, I'm ok that he calls and textes me daily. He actually just called now to say "Hi" ;o) It dont bother me.

 

Life is too short for restraints, and you never know what can happen. If talking every couple hours, or spending most of your time with your significate other is what makes one happy- so be it. Enjoy every moment is what I say ;o)

[Karen]

We spend a lot of time together and text each other a few times during the day. But I wouldn't say we are joined at the hip. We both like to have alone time and encourage each other to have alone time as well as time with friends.

[beachbride09]

H2B and I are pretty close to the hip. We have a lot of common interests so we do a lot of things together. We don't really call each other on the phone during work hours, but we email each other regularly - unless one of us is too busy. After work, one of us calls to see where the other is in proximity of home (sounds controling, but it's not - we check to see who's closer to the store incase something is needed or who is closer to the babysitters to pick up our daughter).

 

Once we're home and our daughter is taken care of and in bed, we spend some time together watching TV or talking about weekend plans and then we go our own way - he to his computer or I to BDW forum or playing Guitar Hero on the Wii.

[RaydensMama]

I have no clue what we are.lol We like to do stuff together and apart, I usually call him once a day at work or vice versa, and we say I love you atleast 2 times a day. We used to be joined at the hip but after 6 years we arent.lol