Grrr...the beginning of MIL drama

[ejaxon]

Wow. Thank you all so much for your words of support and understanding. FMIL has quieted down for a moment so FI is planning on leaving it alone. OH NO! Its not over....This will resurface. And I will do my best to take as much of your great advice as I can, including having FI handle it and standing my ground. As someone else mentioned, if it was easy just to invite my mother and my FIL's, I would. But its not that easy, my mother wouldn't be able to make it (nor do I want her to), I don't want one set of parents and not the other, and we really don't want to celebrate the equivalent of getting our "driver's licenses." BTW, thanx Becks, that was such a great analogy. I'm definitely stealing it.

 

Sorry for posting in an inaccurate forum. Thank you for moving it.

 

Again, thanks for everything. I'm hoping this is settled very soon so we can get back to being excited for what's to come and focus our energies on the positive.

 

Erika

[Emily&Matt]

Yeah, it will resurface because your FMIL sounds very manipulating. Calling you trashy?? So the only way you can be not-trashy is to do what she wants you to do? I hate that kind of stuff and it pushes me to do the exact opposite. You better stand your ground now or your entire life with MIL will be like that.

[Allaballa]

We invited Dh's 2 sets of parents and my parents. We had a lunch afterwards and that was the end of it.

 

Everyone was happy and it wasn't a spectacle. I didn't invite any siblings (that would have been another 15 people).

[cndisue58]

Two weeks before our wedding, I "kidnapped" my fiance after work, drove to the airport and hopped on a plane to Vegas. When we got there, I had a limo waiting to drive us to the Clerk's office (which is open until midnight there) and in 15 minutes, we had our license. Then a quick ride over to the Graceland Wedding Chapel and we were married with Elvis! It was hysterical. We didn't exchange rings, said some generic vows, and had the legal part behind us. It was a really fun evening, but definitely not our REAL wedding. That was in Cabo last Saturday. Moral....Don't include anyone else. Just the two of you for that part. That way it won't feel like you had 2 weddings.

[JenniferSS]

If that Monday is important to you for the date I would precaution to arrive at least two days prior just in case you run into some airline difficulties - they are really cutting flights back plus overbooking, mother nature or mechanical issues have a way of making people not arrive till the next day. How bad would that stink if you arrived at the resort after your scheduled time?