So Upset - Dad doesn't want to come to my wedding!!

[TOESNTHESND]

Stephanie- I can relate to what you are going through. My FI's dad has NEVER been on a vacation in his life nor ever called in sick to work. The man does not know how to relax! It has taken about four months for him to get use to the idea of even getting on a plane. Crazy I know, but he is just a SPECIAL kind of person. This was really hard for my FI at first, but the more we talked to his dad about it the more he began to break down. YES! Then my FI just decided that he would ask his dad to be a groomsmen and now he is forced to go. I even had to talk some sense into him. And my mother is quite upset with me right now and told my sister-in-law she may not come to the wedding because she thinks I am giving my dad advice on their divorce. My dad just needs more support because he is a softy and well is very stressed out. Well all we can do is hope for the best and if not there are other people who are special to me I can count on.

[JPMO]

That has to be an absolute bummer, such an odd situation. I think that your brother will be the best escort, but even better would be to have your Mom. Heck you're bucking tradition by having a destination wedding anyway. If I were in your shoes or didn't have my father I would totally do this. Another idea is to have your brother escort you half way and thenlet your mother join you two or take over completely. I'm sure she would be delighted to be in the spotlight!!

[NHPT]

i haven't been able to check my email all day and i just read you post and i am SO sorry. my dad and i have a very rocky relationship and he is not sure if he is coming either- so i am planning on my mom doing it- she is my hero and best friend and i would rather her do it anyway- but i am sorry he sort of sprung it on you like it was not a big deal.

[MERRYME]

I'm so sorry, but please make the best of it. I know it is important for your family to be there BUT the fact of the matter is that you are forming a NEW family and that is what is more important. It is your wedding and the beggining of a new life. Don't let someone elses baggage affect you.

[KristinaM]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that now Stephanie. Your dad probably doesn't realize how insensitive he is being. There may even be something else bothering him that he is using this as a front to not open up. Don't let that ruin this exciting time in your life for you though!

 

He will come around eventually and if not I think it's totally great for your brother to give you away. As the others have said, its not age that matters, but someone who loves you and is important to you.

[MARIAELM]

what a crappy situation! it seems so careless of your feelings. i would definitely go with your brother and/or mother who realize how important this is and will support you no matter what!

[LIZAGEHL]

Parents can be so difficult! I know that you don't want to beg anyone to come to your wedding that doesn't full heartedly want to be there, but is it possible for the two of you to find some time to sit down and talk about it. Maybe if he hears how important his precence is to you, he will change his mind. Your wedding will be beautiful, no matter who walks you! Hang in there!

[NATASHA]

I'm sorry Stephanie. That's painful.

 

You can have anyone you want walk you down the aisle and having your brother would be special for both of you. Go with your first instict to just wait and decide later. You have a lot of time and he may warm to coming to your wedding as he has an opportunity to become more comfortable.