Evite for AHR?

[RyanAmanda]

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Originally Posted by Maura i agree with yari that i think sending out an evite for a wedding event is a bit tacky. but to each his own, and thats just my personal opinion.

I guess we don't really see it as a 'wedding event'. We're not wearing our wedding clothes, there will be no speeches, etc. It's just a chance for us to see everyone who couldn't come to Mexico. We would have had it at our house but we just bought our first place (a townhouse) and there's not enough room for everyone at our place. I guess AHR is the wrong word for what we're doing. It's not a 'reception' really.

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Originally Posted by Maura sorry but i think that the reason for wanting to use the evite (so you can have a rolling guest list) is quite rude... either people are invited right away or not invited at all, IMHO.

I guess I should have explained this better - it's not so much a rolling guest list as it is that we're sure our out of town guests will RSVP no. The hall we were able to rent for our AHR holds 100 people and we have 127 guests. We have a lot of family from out of town and we are 99.99% sure that none of them will come. If you don't count them in our guest list, we're well under 100 people. Even if some of them come (which is highly unlikely), we'll still be under 100. The difference in price to rent a bigger hall was a thousand dollars. Since our DW is already costing us much more then we expected (all said and done we're at about 17K) we couldn't justify spending another thousand when we could fit into the smaller hall. Maybe it's just being being paranoid, but I don't want to send out all 127 invites until we get the no's from the OOT's.

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by RyanAmanda I guess we don't really see it as a 'wedding event'. We're not wearing our wedding clothes, there will be no speeches, etc. It's just a chance for us to see everyone who couldn't come to Mexico. We would have had it at our house but we just bought our first place (a townhouse) and there's not enough room for everyone at our place. I guess AHR is the wrong word for what we're doing. It's not a 'reception' really.

ok maybe YOU dont see it as a wedding event - but your guests will since this may be the only chance they're able to celebrate with you. it doesnt matter if you are wearing your wedding clothes, if there are speeches, its still just basically an informal AHR.

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Originally Posted by RyanAmanda I guess I should have explained this better - it's not so much a rolling guest list as it is that we're sure our out of town guests will RSVP no. The hall we were able to rent for our AHR holds 100 people and we have 127 guests. We have a lot of family from out of town and we are 99.99% sure that none of them will come. If you don't count them in our guest list, we're well under 100 people. Even if some of them come (which is highly unlikely), we'll still be under 100. The difference in price to rent a bigger hall was a thousand dollars. Since our DW is already costing us much more then we expected (all said and done we're at about 17K) we couldn't justify spending another thousand when we could fit into the smaller hall. Maybe it's just being being paranoid, but I don't want to send out all 127 invites until we get the no's from the OOT's.

how far away are the OOT family members? you COULD just still send postcards directing people to rsvp to your website or call - but what you do is send the postcards to the OOT family with very short notice, so theyre less likely to book a flight to come. honestly, yes, you are being paranoid about it - all brides are paranoid about it! i know it sounds sneaky.... but we sent out several late invitations to family members who live far away and out of the 15 or so we sent (which amounts to about roughly 25-30 people), only one person decided to book a flight and come.

[RyanAmanda]

Yep, I'm sure we could start a thread 50 pages long if every bride listed what they were paranoid about..lol. When my sister got married it was her fake eyelashes she was paranoid about.

 

And I guess that's the thing, I'm not going to please everyone. Some people will think that the evite is tacky while some will think that another invite being sent is overkill. Really though, when I think about the number of people who think an evite would be tacky, it's probably smaller then the number of people who couldn't even be bothered to acknowledge the wedding invite we mailed them :@

[Maura]

my rsvp deadline was 2 weeks ago and we still have people RSVPing, and i started making phone calls to people to confirm they weren't coming because they didnt respond, and got some pretty rude attitude -- wtf people, its only polite to tell someone you are or are not coming to their wedding by the deadline. wedding guests are so ignorant let me tell you.

[RyanAmanda]

Yeah, it surprised me the number of people that didn't respond. I mean, the card is stamped for them, all they have to do is drop it in the mail.

 

FH was really upset so he said if they didn't RSVP to the wedding, then they don't get invited to the AHR...lol.

[dmarie17]

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Originally Posted by Maura my rsvp deadline was 2 weeks ago and we still have people RSVPing, and i started making phone calls to people to confirm they weren't coming because they didnt respond, and got some pretty rude attitude -- wtf people, its only polite to tell someone you are or are not coming to their wedding by the deadline. wedding guests are so ignorant let me tell you.

Same here! WTF!! I just counted everyone that didn't respond as a no. Damn stamp wasters.
Anyway, I'm in the same boat as you Amanda on the whole evite situation. We are doing a casual drinks and appetizers one night at a local restaurant/bar and can only invite 75 people because of the capacity rule. I'm thinking that Evite is the way to go because our wedding guests have already gotten an STD, and invite and a shower invite from my MOH. Too much stuff to keep track of so I figure that I'll throw them off with an email. I will probably have to send out a few for the older guests but since most of our invitees are young and internet savvy, they'll appreciate not having to run to the mailbox (aka they are lazy!). Here's hoping!!

[ButlerGirl08]

I agree about the evites. Do what saves money. This "reception" is basically for all the folks that did not come...it's not neccesarily geared for you because that's what the wedding was... It's for folks to come and see you and congratulate you, so its really for them. I am in the exact same boat...I have 2 AHR's to put on and I don't want to anymore because we don't need to spend anymore money. Save money and do things however you think they should be done. If people think it is tacky, SO WHAT!!! It is your wedding and it will be so fabulous that no one will care how they will be invited.

 

I wish I could just send evites...most of my family don't even have computers. But for the ones that do, I am posting an event on facebook...now I know that sounds tacky but it is an informal barbeque at a park!?!? What else can you expect. Nothing fancy, nothing that anyone needs to make a big deal about...it's just putting the word out there, ya know. You already went through all the formalities for the wedding...just be easy going and know you are not gonna please everyone, but please yourself and you hubby...

 

There goes my 2 cents...lol