vow renewal vs legal ceremony?

[MrsV-to-be]

opps - never mind! I found the answer (you don't have to)

[Debs]

So my question is...

 

Do you think (or would your guests think) that they are being cheated by not seeing an ACTUAL legal wedding? Do you feel like you are deceiving them? Are you going to tell your guests that it's not the real thing?

 

This has been discussed on a number of boards and want to get everyone's feedback, as we are considering the same thing (though we are getting married in the Dominican).

[~Melissa~]

Looks like we will be getting married in Florida legally first rather than Mexico. It just seems much easier and I don't have to worry about lost documents, blood work etc. My friend just recently got married in the DR and they lost photocopies of their passports, birth certificates and drivers licenses. CRAZY and it was through a fed-ex type of agency. She got some compensation for the lost documents but still with all the identity theft goin on lately. I'd be POd.

 

Deb - in regards to your question, if we feel like we're ripping off our guests? No, I don't because I don't think most of them would be able to tell the difference. As we'll be doing our own vows and I don't think people would be able to tell the difference. I don't know if we have to sign anything in Mexico though - I'm assuming not being that there is nothing legal.

 

I think we'll still celebrate our anniversary on our mexican wedding date because to us that will be our wedding day rather than the day we go to the courts and sign the papers.