Stories of bride and groom only wedding

Kat81 · July 12, 2008

If you really want your sisters there then just invite your siblings! It's your wedding do what you want.

Lilpaisley · July 13, 2008

We are going the just the 2 of us route...and I have both a sister and a brother. Everyone has been super supportive. I get the feeling that my parents and his father are all relieved that they don't have to pay for anything

My mom's response was something along the lines of - yah, congrats, what took you guys so long...make sure you bring back great pics.

I have no regrets about having my wedding this way. That being said there are things I know I'm missing out on like having my sis be my MOH and going dress shopping, doing invites, etc. But in the end I have zero stress.

akittrell · July 13, 2008

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Originally Posted by SgtPepperette

Do any of you have siblings? I think that is whats making it hard. I have 3 sisters, they were step sisters, but legally became my sisters in the last year. We have become pretty close in the last year or two, and it would be nice to have them there.

I do have one sister. She and I are pretty close even though she is 11 years younger than me. At first, I did feel really torn b/c I'd love for her to be there and I can tell that she would like to as well. BUT, she's still in high school and we can barely afford to pay our way much less hers, plus she'd be missing school. After I talked with her she's ok with it and understands. I've included her in a lot of the planning for the wedding ceremony and reception we are going to have when we get back home. I'm going to do something super special for her to honor her at my reception, but I haven't quite figured that out yet. Anyone have any suggestions for that I'd be really appreciative!

Like I said before, this is your day and ultimately you have to do what both makes you happy and your day special.

Karen · July 13, 2008

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Originally Posted by SgtPepperette

I was wondering if anyone has had just the two of you at your wedding would share their stories. Pros, cons, regret, no regret?

We had a private wedding for two at Dreams Tulum and it was wonderful. Our ceremony was on the beach in the morning. Since it was just the two of us, it was very intimate. Our officient spoke directly to us and advised us on marriage. We spoke to each other from our hearts during our ceremony. I doubt either of us would do this with guests. After, we had photography and then called our families. We had a private luncheon on the beach in lieu of a reception. We also laid out for a while before going to a surprise wedding dinner at sunset that my husband planned for us. It was a perfectly beautiful and romantic day. I don't regret a thing.

I was married before and had done the big traditional wedding before. Plus I was 35 when I got married. If I was younger and this was my first wedding, I might not have chosen this. Our families would have loved to be there but were very supportive. We had a AHR for 30 when we returned.

Pros: Romance, Romance, Romance (You get to do it right after the ceremony...lol); Intimacy, Inexpensive, No Compromising (even with the most supportive family/ friends, you'll have to make compromises), Simplicity, less stress; you get to spoil yourselves with things you would otherwise could not afford i.e. plush suite, exotic location like Bali or a super long honeymoon (ours was 2 weeks)

Cons: No family/ friends surrounding you; No big party immediately after the wedding; There won't be as much hoopla (possibly no shower and not a lot of gifts); not a lot of details like OOT bags and favors; strange looks from some people when you tell them,

For me the pros outweighed the cons. I didn't have a shower but I had one before with my first marriage. My parents threw us an engagement party a month before our wedding. Some friends threw me a bachelorette party. Another friend treated me to a spa day a couple of weeks before our wedding, And actually the gifts we received were quite generous (not that this really mattered to us...we didn't expect any gifts). Neither of us felt lonely but Jay and I tend to have solitary natures. Bottom line, follow your heart. Be kind and respectful but don't let others' opinions sway you. This day will only be the most special to you and FH. Do what makes you happy. Feel free to PM me with any other questions.