I Am Totally Floooored....

[Kat81]

It really isn't just women. Like a lot of girls have said. Since I have been engaged people CONSTANTLY make comments on my ring. It is pretty big but not because I wanted it that way. I ALWAYS imagined a band and a little engagement ring. I LOVE my ring I really do but it has taken me sooo long to stop bumping it on things. Thank God for insurance. My Fi was looking at really expensive rings. I talked him out of it because 1. if I had lost it I would never forgive myself 2. I'm just not like that. He did spend more than I felt comfortable with on my ring and I know it's not because he loves me more but because he loved the ring he bought. It is a measure of a man in todays society. As soon as people see my ring they comment to FI about it.

PS I am so sorry the women in that store made you feel bad. Slight hijack...

When one of my BF's was getting married she was six months pregnant. We went into this store and told them she was looking for a dress. They were SO freakin' rude to her we walked out. They basically told her that it would be really hard to find a dress to fit and that with such a short notice (she was getting married in a month) they didn't know what they could do for her. I was so pissed. I told them off. My BF was in tears. The other girl that was with us and I had it out with them and told them how rude they were. We ended up going to another store that was MORE than helpful and she looked so amazing in the dress she got.

[BarefootBride]

OMG! Your friend is so damn shallow! Is she serious She will end up lonely and sad... thats ridiculous!

[jean-marcus]

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Originally Posted by tvt I said "wow, it's really sparkly" and she's like "yeah it's perfect cut, clarity, and cost a lot of money - he really loves me"

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Originally Posted by foxytv I had a 'friend' talk behind my back about my e-ring. Very similar in looks and attitude as your 'frien' it sounds like. And I had a lady from our corporate offices at my last job tell me how "small and dainty" my e-ring was.

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Originally Posted by JenniferLynn When I went dress shopping, one of the stores I went into made me feel so uncomfortable. The moment I walked in I got the once over from head to toe, with a stop on my ring finger.

I DONT believe in violance against women BY MEN... BUTTTT will you women please do me a favor and punch all those women you just told me about in the nose and slap some sense into them hahaha

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Originally Posted by BarefootBride OMG! Your friend is so damn shallow! Is she serious She will end up lonely and sad... thats ridiculous!

and yes... she is shallow. i just came to realize... ive honestly never wished someone to end up alone and sad but i hope she does... well. hmm no .. wait no i dont. i hope she is alone until she gets old and leather faced and THENNNN she realizes that there is more to life then material things and diamonds and that having quality relationships with quality people is what matters in life....

[jillhiggins]

I have always thought I must be the only girl on the planet who is just not that into diamonds. They are boring to me...like red roses on Valentines Day.

 

I would have killed my husband if he had spent a fortune on an engagement ring. He got me an [inexpensive] engagement ring b/c I felt like I had to do so to truly be engaged - but I would be just as happy with a cool, artsy wedding band only.

 

And for the record - I've been married for 12 years and I adore my husband and love being married.

 

I always wonder if people are really serious when they say to someone, "Wow - your ring is huge - your fiance/husband must really love you."

[heather1172]

Really? Seriously Is life ALL about A RING?? Some girls are so ridiculous. I love my ring. Is it what I would have picked? Probably not, but do you know why I love it? Because HE picked it out, and for most guys, that's HUGE. It's already a very nerve wracking decision, let alone picking out a ring (the cut, the setting, the style, not to mention the quality and clarity) that a man HOPES she'll love. I love my ring because it's from his heart.

[Pazoop]

I'm glad to hear I'm not alone in this either! And Jean-Marcus, your reaction to your friend is understandable...I would not be able to listen to someone talk that way either! I've often suspected that people think like that but never heard of anyone being quite that blunt!

 

I've also had it given to me both ways...Many comments about how much FI must love me to have given me such a beautiful ring! And then occassionally comments from women (and their FI's too!!!) with over 2 carat rings about how amazing their rings are and how they are always finding people staring at them! I'm not joking! More often when I'm home in NYC, where I think the avg ring size is significantly larger, but sometimes in Toronto too. I've had people in both places tell me the carat weight, stats, exact cost, etc. on their stones, and I've had the FI who paid brag about how the ring THEY bought THEIR girl is uninsurable, irreplaceable, one of a kind...I had one FI do that to me one night in the same conversation that he tried to "guestimate" the price of my ring!!! (And he underestimated badly I might add)....I just sat and smiled, told him that was the price "give or take", and let all the other not so subtle innuedos slide....

 

I figured my ego is in tact and my sense of self is pretty solid which is why I have a great relationship and a great ring (by great I mean one that makes me feel warm and fuzzy and proud to be wearing it)...if all these people get is a two second cheap thrill by thinking they've made me feel envious, they haven't and I know it...

 

I think the most important thing is that clearly there are men out there who are a good match for your friend in the way they think about money and love and material things, but the majority of people still have some perspective or even sense of self to know what really counts....

[happyone]

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Originally Posted by jillhigginsphotography I have always thought I must be the only girl on the planet who is just not that into diamonds. They are boring to me...like red roses on Valentines Day. I would have killed my husband if he had spent a fortune on an engagement ring. He got me an [inexpensive] engagement ring b/c I felt like I had to do so to truly be engaged - but I would be just as happy with a cool, artsy wedding band only. And for the record - I've been married for 12 years and I adore my husband and love being married. I always wonder if people are really serious when they say to someone, "Wow - your ring is huge - your fiance/husband must really love you."

I feel the same way about diamonds. Boring. I told my FI that I just wanted a gold band like my grandparents who were married 63 years had. I wanted to fight the superficial attitude but eventually the pressure of people not really believing we were engaged because there wasn't a ring led us to go pick out a modest but beautiful ring. My FI is about to support me through 6 years of graduate school and moving with to New Mexico from San Diego so I can accomplish my dreams. That is more special to me than any bit of carbon ever could be.

Oh yeah, and tell your stupid (ex) friend that I'm a beautiful girl who doesn't care about diamonds and I think she's ugly!

[Kat81]

By the way... the expression

HER why should I?

lol oh my god

get the sand out of your vagina

WTH? LOL good luck to her with love

[-Kate-]

That makes me sad for her. Does she know diamonds are really only semi-precious stones that are price controlled by the diamond dealers? They aren't rare or anything like that - they are totally overpriced semi-precious stones.

 

That said - I have one. I picked out the ring I wanted, but not with the center stone in it. I didn't care what stone was in there. I just wanted to pick out the band because I do get to wear it for the rest of my life. I did get what I feel like is a big center stone. I feel awkward when people say stuff about it - like "oh he must love you" - because that's just not how I think. I always try to discount it and say "It's my years of service award" because we dated for 10+ years before we got engaged.

 

Would she really say No to someone because she didn't like the ring? That is insane.

[jean-marcus]

no mind you all.. in no way am i saying just cuase someone gets a fancy ring that they are superficial or shallow or anything like that... the guy that bought the ring on here that i showed you makes 600K a year so thats like someone on a "normal" income paying 6K for theirs or something like that.. and granted it is gorgeous and really who wouldnt love a ring like that...and it sparkled so much that it messed up the autofocus on the camera hahaha. i am just glad that not everyone (as BDW) has proven to me cares that much about the size of the diamond... way to go BDW ... three cheers

 

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