What would you do if you got an email like this?

[nikkianddean]

I thought the email was very nice. I think they thought very carefully about their words and I think that shows a little compassion. The fact that they are travelling so far to attend your wedding says a lot about them as friends, so I would just be happy that they want to participate in your celebration!

[Debs]

That's the perfect compromise I think! Excellent!

[cndisue58]

Smile and say "sure, that's absolutely fine with us". Don't sweat the small stuff. It is a big expense and you can't blame them for wanting to make a "vacation" out of it. As long as people show up at your wedding, who cares what they do with the rest of their week? Be happy they think enough of you to join you on your big day.

[beth]

Emails are so hard because you cannot tell the person's tone. If you don't mind them staying elsewhere, I would call and let them know. I would stop the emailing immediately to take some of the pressure off and make sure they know you do/don't care where they stay.

Good luck!

[NewOrleansbride]

Quote:

Originally Posted by soontobeamrs ...having a not so good experience wedding planning thus far.

Our planning got off to a bumpy start as well. PF was my #1 choice, but after much discussion about what our guests would expect I relented and chose a large resort (which I'm very pleased with thus far).

I know how bad it feels when you work so hard to plan something only to have someone turn around and say "BUT, could I do it this way?" (especially to say it in an email- they should have spoken to you in person, or the very least on the phone).

Have you suggested that they stay at PF for the night before the wedding and the night of, then stay at the resort of their choice for the rest of their trip. That way they can enjoy their vacation, and be near the two of you and your guests for the wedding events.

Take it from me, though, the planning gets a LOT smoother, people adjust and accept things for what they are. I can almost promise you that you will begin enjoying the planning from here on out (picking the place is the most difficult and agonizing part). There are only good things to come!