What would you do if you got an email like this?

[amyh]

I agree with everyone. I'm sure your disappointed especially since you are required to book X amount of rooms at Playa Fiesta. PF looks great and personally I would love to attend a wedding and stay there, however, I am used to AI resorts. Others are not and would prefer to stay at a boutique hotel.

 

We actually considered PF, however I knew my family would not stay there b/c it is not a big AI resort.

 

I think you can offer them a few options. PF is in a good spot with other resorts near by.

[Kelly C]

I guess I may read it differently. But I think it was kind of rude. Like they were saying it wasn't good enough. If they needed cheaper I could understand. I would let them know that if they would like to visit the group there will probably be a day pass charge.

[kate.com]

Thanks girls.

 

I guess the only reason I care is that they are my FI sibblings... and our wedding party.. They kind of went about it wrong and avoided my calls. Plus it was the day after I set the date/place. Hadn't even had a chance to share the info with them other than the website. My FI flew off the handle some because he was embarrassed that I found out... he knew how excited I was and after having a not so good experience wedding planning thus far.

 

I guess I would expect my wedding party to stay with us and help out for the days we have stuff planned. Anyone else I prob wouldn't care either.

[LadyCheese]

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Originally Posted by soontobeamrs Thanks girls. I guess the only reason I care is that they are my FI sibblings... and our wedding party.. They kindof went about it wrong and avoided my calls. My FI flew off the handle some because he was embarrassed that I found out. I guess I would expect my wedding party to stay with us and help out for the days we have stuff planned. Anyone else I prob wouldn't care either.

yeah thats different now, they avoided your calls & their siblings! I hate when they do avoid calls. Hopefully everything will work out in the end. Dont let it stress you too much.

[Jen_S]

I think they tried to be nice about it and they checked with you before booking somewher else. I expect that some of our guests may do the same thing, since we are trying to plan a trip for 60 or so guests it may not fit everyones vacation needs. I would let them know that it is fine but also of the other activities and interatctions that will happen during the stay they miss by not staying at the same hote.

[Maura]

it didnt seem rude to me and if anything it seems they were being considerate of your feelings asking in advance if it would cause a problem. i dont think theres anything wrong with them staying somewhere else if they prefer a different resort - after all you must remember that whether these people are family or not, they are not there to wait on you hand & foot at any given moment, they probably don't care about your wedding even close to as much as you do, they are spending a lot to go down there and would like to stay at a resort of their choice if you dont mind and were considerate enough to ask you instead of saying "piss off we dont want to stay at your hotel, we're staying somewhere else" - as long as you make them aware of what their duties are and you give them clear timelines that they need to be at your resort for anything wedding related, i dont see what the problem is not to sound harsh, but you have to remember that nobody cares about our weddings as much as we do and therefore theyre not thinking "how can make things easier the bride"

 

edited to add: my parents are staying at a different hotel about 15 mins away from the resort where the rest of our guests are staying and where our wedding took place. they wanted to make a weeklong vacation out of it but couldnt afford to do so staying at our resort, nor did they want to bother us on our honeymoon since we're staying at the same resort the whole time, so they asked for my help in finding a less expensive one.

[*JillD*]

I think they were trying to choose what they said carefully, so as not to offend or upset you. I think it was very considerate of them to ask if that was okay and to offer you the chance to tell them if it was a problem. And I can understand that maybe they want to stay somewhere else as it is there vacation. I might express to them that you were looking forward to everyone being at the same resort so that you could all spend time together, but that you understand if they choose to stay elsewhere.

[DreaW]

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Originally Posted by Christa I would completely understand their point of view! I think the email makes complete sense. I understand you may be unhappy at the prospect of some guest chosing to stay else where, but in reality it is THEIR vacation too. ** edit- I did not sense any rudeness what so ever! I think they are being genuine in checking in with you prior to any decision making.

I agree with Christa. To me it seems like the are saying it nicely. They are not being rude. Like Christa said it is Their vacation too

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by Maura edited to add: my parents are staying at a different hotel about 15 mins away from the resort where the rest of our guests are staying and where our wedding took place. they wanted to make a weeklong vacation out of it but couldnt afford to do so staying at our resort, nor did they want to bother us on our honeymoon since we're staying at the same resort the whole time, so they asked for my help in finding a less expensive one.

My parents also stayed elsewhere, at a place their TA recommended and said they didn't want to stay with us anyway because we should have some privacy. Only a handful of guests stayed with us, and not even all of the wedding party. I wouldn't worry too much about it because your time there will be busier than you think and you won't be lounging around at the hotel much. The few times we got to relax briefly it was nice not to have an overwhelming crowd to have to entertain.

[Kat81]

I think they were very nice about it. My Fi's brother told him straight up he was going to stay at a different hotel because ours allows kids and he doesn't want to deal with kids running around all the time (his words) Well guess what? They ended up booking at our hotel lol. At least your Soon to be siblings in law asked. They could have been really rude. Because really we ask a lot of people to fly out of the country to see us get married we should feel good that they want to be a part of it. Where they stay shouldn't matter. They are the ones that will have to deal with day passes and feeling left out.