What is the biggest source of conflict in your relationship?

[Kat81]

We don't hardly ever fight. He has soo much patience with me. I get annoyed with him sometimes when we are with his friends. I swear he turns into an eleven year old. Sometimes, we fight well discuss him getting a motorbike. I really really don't want him to BUT he has agreed to get a cruiser bike instead of a crotchrocket which I feel a lot better about. We usually talk everything out.

[Jacqueline]

sad as it is we fight about where we live, or where we "dont" live i should say. i would rather live near feasterville, south hampton near my family. we now live in jersey, near his family. 20-30 minutes away from my fam. i kow it isnt far but after a ong day of working and its hard. i hate being out of my "element" and that i cant just get up and go to my sisters or moms anymore. he however can walk to his family's and it just bugs me out and i get snippy with him about it. he works for jersey's electric co so its better that he lives in jersey. blah z blah im getting mad thinking aout it hahahahhhahaa

[Kat81]

Oh also! FI works out of town a lot. For like two to six weeks at a time. And sometimes I think he doesn't call or text me enough. I know it is silly because he is really busy but I just miss him so much sometimes. When I bring it up he really tries to call more then I feel bad like he is just calling so I don't get mad... I am such a mess LMAO

[gkashmira]

I would say HOUSEHOLD STUFF! In that I am including doing stuff for our move to WY and travel to Nicaragua.

 

Prior to getting a housekeeper who comes once every other week I think we fought about actual cleaning a lot more. (ie we both despise cleaning the bathroom!)

[dragonfly]

We fight about time together, Everton works all the time, and then with the kids schedules we barely have time to say hello to each other. We fight mostly when Everton goes in on his days off, it drives me crazy! The other major sourse of conflict is his lack of time maanagement, he thinks 15 minutes means an hour, he is late for everything. He says I'm leaving work now and an hour and a half later he gets home. We also fight a bit about his lack of closing cupboards, folding laundry and leaving the kitchen a mess! Early in our relationship we had kid issues it was hard the whole step family thing, but we went to counselling to learn how to deal with things and now we are pretty much on the same page about the kids. The longer we are together the less we fight.

[Martha]

We don't fight very often...mostly because he works out of state for 6-8 weeks a time and we just kinda cherish the time we get to spend together.

 

But, when he is home, we usually bicker because our apt is TOO SMALL. Crap is everywhere. We are both pretty neat, and we just have too much stuff to live neatly.

 

Also, he leaves ALL the lights on....ALL.THE.TIME. When he was home for a month last month, our light bill literally doubled! ugh! Oh and he wakes up in the middle of the night to eat (he has always done this) and he will leave EVERYTHING out....milk, cereal, leftovers, whatever. I have thrown away so much food because he has left it out over night.

 

Ummm....and that's about it. Small little things. When we do bicker about these things, we usually squash it right away...I hate fighting and being mad. Such a waste of time and energy.

[Amy&Andy]

We really don't fight much about household duties since we have been absolutely 50/50 from the very beginning. We share all the cleaning and cooking, and I feel very lucky he's tidy and loves to cook! However, we do bicker about not having enough of this.... We are both consciously trying to "fit it in" more consistantly because we are always so much nicer to each other after

[StephanieMN]

I am not alone! I felt like I was this crazy beotch for bringing up the household stuff with hubby all the time. I swear his idea of clean is getting the dishes on the counter. I know I am no angel- I let my laundry invaid the laundry room (um, hello it's called a laundry room for a reason) but he can look past stuff for months. I am pretty sure there was some sort of fish growing on our bathtub and I had to remind him to clean it ( his job) and he says he doesn't notice. WTF! When your bathtub can breath on it's own there is an issue.

[Jessica]

Me = neat, organzied, clean.

 

Brian = messy, unorganized, hates to clean.

 

Daily fights ensure over this.

[Jenn79]

Money is probably the biggest issue. It's not so much how we spend, we're both on the same page about that, but when we sit down to pay bills together, he gets freaked out very easily if he can't account for every single penny right away. It all works out in the end, once we find our receipts and check the bills, but trying to get him to calm down for five minutes and just think about things can be difficult.

 

And of course, there is the household stuff. He admits he doesn't do as much as he should, but will still leave his dishes in the sink or clothes all over the floor. I've pretty much gotten used to it, but there are times when the dishes that have piled up just make me want to scream.