Our entire wedding party has dumped us :o(

[Copita]

I'm sorry. I say go for it still, and elope, if it's your dream to marry in an exotic locale!

[JennyK]

that really sucks.. if you have your heart set on a dw, then just do a small romantic ceremony for just the two of you..

[Dbell]

I feel your pain! Our family members were planning to come to our ceremony, but now that the date is near, everyone backed out. There will be one person from my family, but no one from my husband's family in attendance. (My mother will be there because we are paying for her). Our children and and about 15-20 close friends will be there. But we would go with it if no one showed up!

[kellywinter1]

That really sucks! Although being dumped due to having a DW is common. My MOH told me last night it is a 50/50 chance she will be going. While it sucks at least she has given me plenty of time to get over it. We are inviting around 160 people and I I think we will be lucky if 15 people come. I have accepted the fact it may just be me and my man! And that is fine.

 

I hope everything works out for you!

[Shay2679]

I agree with the majority here...if the DW is what you and your FI dreamed of...then you will regret not doing if you allow others to bend your will!

 

With still a bit more time until your date, your parents could change their minds. When we started planning our DW, the only people I knew I would want there, would be our parents...and we are fortunate that, even though my folks hate the cost (I had some major convincing to do too!), they wouldn't miss it for the world...especially now that they know how much it means to us. I'm sorry you are having trouble convincing yours...but hopefully they will come around! (We are doing a AHR when we return with about 150 guests, this has helped satisfy everyone which has helped de-stress me!)

 

We've had four people back out this week! Hopefully that is it for us!

 

Good luck darlin! Keep your chin up...and keep us posted!

[Amarillis]

Sorry you are going through this, it is too bad because IMO, so many people, family and friends say that they are intereste, but when push comes to shove, many drop out.

 

If you have always dreamed of a beach wedding - DO IT!

 

Go elope, just the two of you!

 

If you have always dreamed of a group trip and a beach wedding - maybe a local wedding and an exotic honeymoon is the better choice?

 

 

A.

[Jen_S]

I am so sorry to hear everyone is backing out. I hate to use the old saying things happen for a reason but maye it should just be the two of you!

[ntanzob]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dbell I feel your pain! Our family members were planning to come to our ceremony, but now that the date is near, everyone backed out. There will be one person from my family, but no one from my husband's family in attendance. (My mother will be there because we are paying for her). Our children and and about 15-20 close friends will be there. But we would go with it if no one showed up!

I am right with Dbell on this one and funny...in the exact same boat. Remember.....this is your day - you and your fiance will remember it forever and what you will remember mostly is what the two of you did and the love you feel. It is not who attends that make the moment, it is the two of you who make it.

Destination weddings weed out a lot of people in a lot of circumstances. If it is in your heart to have the ocean behind you - have the ocean behind you ) You will regret it if you do not.

After all.....you can renew your vows later and it will be just as beautiful.

Good luck!

[ErinB]

I know it's been said by every poster, but if you want a DW, have one.

 

My FBIL got married two weeks ago in a big traditional wedding. My FI was a GM. He was miserable the whole time! He was uncomfortable in the suit, uncomfortable with the super religious ceremony, and didn't understand spending all of the time, money, and hassle for a 12-hour day.

 

It was a very nice wedding, but not ANYTHING either of us would want.

 

This is a very special day and the foundation of your new lives together. It needs to be meaningful to you alone. If nothing else, it will assert that you two are a couple and are at the point in your lives and have the committment to each other to put the needs of your "new family" first.

[2bebridejamaica]

 

Oh honey I feel your pain and I am soooo sorry for you ... I had the same thing happen to me. Orig local wedding 4 on each side of our party ... and just up till lastweek I am now down to 1 bridesmaid .. and no groomsmen at all. I had 3 def when we changed to a DW wedding, but then 3 weeks ago I had my MOH and one of bridesmaids roomed with a friend and the friend bagged me without even telling me and I found out from my WP that she canceled. With that being said MOH and BM freaked because the prices will be changing and how could they afford more when they planned the 3 of them. 2 days later after all of that ... my BM (in that group) found out that she got into the abroad program and is now going to Ireland for a semester for college, during our wedding. I am sooooo happy for her but sooo sad because she is like my little sister. And to top it all off... my MOH just can not swing it now alone.... It's just so frustrating and I want to cry and did that because I was just so overwhelmed with it all because it happened all in one weekend. Here is the kicker to it all ... My FH... just gave up with his side because he didn't want me to feel bad anymore and canceled all his guys and moved his dad to be his BM...

 

I just don't get it ... you committed to things .. you got a responsability and you agreed to it all... Only to get bagged in the process... this SUCKS!! Gotta love the stress!