Did this happen to anyone else?

[MarysoL]

Reading everyone's comments has made me feel WAY better. I'm glad I'm not alone... Thank you so much!

[Jen_S]

Yeah this happened to us but hey its our day if they dont like it dont come!

[Opice34]

Oh, yes. My friends were all pretty cool with it, but a lot of people in my family flipped. My favorite quote came from my 98 year old (adorable) grandmother who said "oh my word, you're getting married in Mexico? Honey, my friend Agnes went there and about 3 years after she got home she DIED." I said "well, how old was Agnes?" And Grandma said "oh, she was young, maybe 85?"

 

I love, love, love that my Grandma does not yet think she's old.

 

But you're right! You've gotta do what you've gotta do! People may be condescending, but you're not getting married to appease anyone else. It will all work out. Hopefully they will come and see how fabulous it is!!!

[MarysoL]

LOL...your grandma is hilarious!

[bridetobe959]

I'm in your same boat as well. The backlash I'm getting is from one aunt who told my parents "maybe they should do something more convenient for everybody, like getting married on the east coast". This is very silly because she is the ONLY one in my family who lives on the east coast the rest of us all live in California! thankfully my parents are completely backing me up so that a bit of a load off. oh and the grandma quote is one of the funniest things Ive ever heard!

[heather1172]

Oh my gosh, I'm so glad you brought this up. It happens to me all the time. In fact, my future MIL tried to talk me out of it, and had her friends start in on me too! We've based the date around a time when we felt it would be easier on everyone's schedules, but still get that sense of disapproval. Sooooo, this is what we're doing.......we are making sure that everyone knows that our wedding could be just one small part of their fabulous vacation. Then we can see their wheels turning and thoughts towards a vacation for themselves.

[Jackie]

Have the wedding you want to have. I had various people try and make us feel guilty every now and then and it is really hard but its so worth it at the end.

[jajajaja]

I think you would have a much shorter list of brides if you asked "who as this NOT happened to?"

 

It's typical- not that it makes the feelings any better. But I'm sure it makes you feel better to know you aren't alone and past brides can tell you that it's all worth it.

[kristendotcom]

I had the same negative reactions and a few people saying things like "What you think your too good to get married in the U.S?"

 

Don't listen to the negativity and do what you want. In the end you will see who is the most important people in your lives because they will be there to support you.

[EmmaB]

the latest is that people can't believe we're getting married in mexico since a tourist got killed there last month. 10 people got killed in toronto last week! sigh...

 

but my mom has finally come around (after 6 months) and seems to be getting excited, and we have 35 booked already, expecting about 50, and they really are my most favourite people. the people that really matter will make it. we still have a few grumblers, but i really think they would be the ones grumbing any way we did it. so at least this me me and FI are happy!

 

good luck! and don't take it personal! you'll have the best wedding ever so it will all be worth it! good thread.