Bridal Shower Question

[Davematthews16]

So, obviously we're all having DW so how is everyone handling their showers? We're having a small intimate wedding invited a small group (20 people coming)Are you all having showers and inviting only the guests you invited to the wedding? Or do I just skip out on the whole shower thing? (We don't need gifts, just have a donation website if they would like) What's everyone else doing?

[Pisces]

I was going to skip the shower, but I really started to feel left out. I'm a MOH this summer and I'm doing so much work, putting in a lot of money and time and really helping to celebrate my best friend's wedding. I felt guilty having a shower because our wedding is small as well (we only have 14 confirmed right now). I don't have a bridal party because my best friend is not coming... But thankfully my mom and her want to plan a shower for me anyways. They are inviting all the women who are invited to the wedding, including those not coming to the wedding itself (but still invited). My mom is sure that those who can't come to the wedding will appreciate being included in a shower. My grandma's actually flying across the country for my shower but not coming to the wedding! I think you should just do whatever you like. It's not really up to you anyway- if someone wants to throw you a shower, why not just let them?!

[junebride2b]

I am having a AHR so I only invited friends that were invited to the DW and the AHR..A large group showed up but most are coming go the DW and the AHR...

[katrina]

imo, i would talk to your mom or other close female family members. chances are your mom already knows in her head what she wants to do. and most of the time, showers are really to appease other people... you just get to keep the gifts. but we invited beyond our guestlist and that was my mom's decision... may be faux pas for some but it worked out for us.

[currier73]

I am going to have a shower b/c no one is coming to Jamaica with us. We are having an AHR a few months later so everyone invited to that will be invited to the shower.

 

Heather

[mjm160]

I had a shower at my aunt's house. I had some family members, friends & co-workes who can't attend the wedding but they still wanted to celebrate with me in some type of way, so i decided to have a shower. There were 45 that showed and everyone had a great time. I think you should have one. It's a day for you to celebrate with people you care about who can't attend the wedding.

[Davematthews16]

Great! Thanks so much for the feedback ladies!!! A lot of help!!!!!