MOH and I broke up (long vent)

[LisaG]

Oh I'm so sorry! That sucks big time!!

My MOH/BFF broke up over my wedding too. It sucks that people can't just be freakin happy for you. Or at least pretent. The way I look at it - I'm better off w/o her. It will be a year on June 9th, and I can honestly say that her drama just brought me down and now I don't have to deal with it.

I'm sorry you're going through this. It really does suck to have to deal with immaturity when you are trying to plan the biggest day of your life. Hang in there!

[nikkianddean]

Oh...my heart really goes out to you on this one. Hopefully after this is over you will be able to resume your friendship it sounds like she has a lot of other thigs going on because a big fat "not attending" is not a normal response.

 

Let me know if you need a drinking buddy and I'll hop in my car and come up to Napa!

[DanielleNDerek]

I think your better off without her at your wedding. She's trying to make your wedding about her. Getting mad that you won't have time for her because you'll be honeymooning. Seriously, how old is she 31 or 5?! Your wedding should be about you, not about doting on your moh. Now you won't have to worry about her needing your constant attention. I'm sure if you still want to remain friends with her you could just give it a little time to blow over and try speaking to her. i'm sure things would work out.

[chonda25]

1st I want to say that I am so sorry to hear that she will not attend.

 

2nd. I think she is jealous and she also probably wants to get married and her LOSER boyfriend is not thinking about her and she just took it out on you.

[Copita]

UGH! I am so sorry this happened to you!

 

First of all, she should have been honest with you from the GET if she didn't want to go.

I cannot stand dishonest people.

You offering to pay for her, then her turning around and AVOIDING you for no apparent reason speaks absolute volumes about her!

She is the selfish one in this case because how on earth does she expect YOU to spend every single moment with HER on YOUR wedding? I'm sorry, but that is ridiculous!

 

I wouldn't call her. At all. Since she's acting like you owe her something. That's just me, though. Don't give her the satisfaction.

 

It's a blessing that she showed her true colors BEFORE the wedding because when all is said in done, this remains:

YOU are getting married, the wedding WILL go on, and you are going to have a freakin' blast!

 

Without her!

 

Aw yeah!

 

Sometimes breaking up is hard to do but necessary!

 

[Dez921714]

Hang in there! *BIG HUG*

 

I agree with everyone else. Better sooner rather than later, the last thing you need on your wedding weekend is drama because you aren't spending enough time with someone other than your FI. She sounds jelous and imature.

[KarmaB]

I'm so sorry that she is being like that. My BFF is a lot like that and to be honest, I never pushed the issue of her coming because I had a feeling it would be drama later on. She is a really selfish person too. I think you are better off, not having her there.

 

If your friendship was really meant to be and is strong enough then with time, maybe things will get better and you guys can talk and be friends again if you want that. I hope you feel better!! :-)

[jajajaja]

While this really really sucks, it's better you found out now what a shitty person she is than later when you really needed to count on her. She sucks- period. Even if she had ANY point to what she was trying to say to you, she acted immature and ugly. You are better off without her.

 

I totally feel for you.

[Copita]

Ever since I joined this forum I have noticed a lot of us have lost our MOHs and/or bridesmaids while planning our weddings (meaning they didn't make it to the big day). It's good to know we are all not alone!

[Jessica]

I have no advice, but I feel your pain. Breaking up with a friend can be just as dramatic and hurtful as breaking up with a boyfriend. It sucks

 

Hopefully one day you guys can straighten this out. Good luck.