Do you still send gifts if not attending?

[nikkianddean]

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Originally Posted by DreaW I would just send her a card not a gift.

That seems perfectly appropriate!

[Dez921714]

OK, I break all etiquitte rules...if I don't go, I don't send a gift. I know this is bad, but usually, if I don't go it's beacuse I can't afford to: a) travel, give a gift or c) both. And this is the same for friends and family. Occasionally I'll give a 1 year anniversary gift instead (and will point out "I didn't get you anything for your wedding, so I figured we'd get you something for you anniversary) but that is very rare. I

 

I'm like this with friends and family. So if it was someone I barely knew, I'd RSVP "No" and that would be the end of it. Just tell your friend you ahve prior engagements. Even if it is a concert, you bought the tickets before you got the invitation.

[Jacqueline]

Well, it depends. In your case, I wouldnt, since you dont even know her.

 

But if a friend sends me an invite to a baby shower, bridal, etc, and I cant make it I normally send a gift...

[chicago88]

I would just get something small & send it with a friend that was going. I would not got all out or anything.

[jessLL]

That is indeed a very strange invitation. maybe she needs to meet the number of guests that she guaranteed. In the same situation I think I would send a card and small gift from her registry.

[frazali]

Definitely sounds like she needs to meet a minimum. Or else you made quite an impression on her the few times you met her :-)

 

I would just rsvp my regrets to the shower. And for the wedding I would rsvp my regrets and write a little note wishing them well.

[Hartyt509]

Just sent a reply with thanks but no i'm already engaged but thanks for the thought and leave it at that. She sounds like she's after a pressie if you ask me!!

[Taradactyle]

i'll usually send a gift, but it's because i know the couple pretty well. if i only met them four times, i wouldn't send a gift.

[Spazz]

I always send gifts to showers and weddings that I can't attend. BUT I have never been invited to one where I only met the person a handful of times. So in your case, I would probably just send a card and maybe a small gift from her registry.

[Chiquita]

If I knew the person really well and couldn't attend the wedding for whatever reason I would send a gift. Someone I've met 4 times does not fall into that category