Help me plan my wedding

[ErinB]

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Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Yeah I think James and I could def do about $4k, maybe $5. Uggh this sucks b/c we had our church time for 1PM, but then we changed it to 11AM b/c we wanted to make the lunch time for the restaurant (it was the only way to keep it private). But actually I think if we just did the restaurant it would be about $9520 w/o tax or tip. But we were also told we would have to hire a piano lady for the music. Not sure how much that would cost.

This sounds like a workable option. How many guests are included at that price? Would it include cake or any kind of dessert? I don't know if you have seen the dummy cakes, but they are foam layers decorated to match your cake and only the top layer is cut-able. Guests are then served from sheet cakes/regular cakes. It usually saves about 50%.

I like the idea of catering an event at the house, just beware of too many rentals. Tents with lighting can easily cost $5K and chivari chairs are usually about $10 each. (for 100 guests you are talking $1000! that's 10-20% of your budget!)

[Maura]

shiz erin i had no idea chivari chairs were so expensive!!!

[jajajaja]

I like the backyard idea. I wouldn't do a tent though- that's expensive. Plus I think the setting would be pretty- do you have pics to share the of the backyard? We need a visual. lol

 

Glenda- you can borrow my veil if you would like? It's ivory shimmer. I'd offer my dress, but it probably wouldn't fit and it's really dirty right now. Plus it has a whole in the ass. That screams class.

[Alyssa]

Glenda we have to talk. What is this Alyssa business...I thought I was the MOH!! LOL quote]

 

 

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Originally Posted by Maura PM me what size dress you wear, if you are close to me, you can borrow a dress from me if you want -- i bought 2 for my civil ceremony because i wasnt crazy about how i looked in the first one, and so i bought a jcrew dress. if either fits you, you are welcome to borrow and then ship back to me so they arrive by july 3rd! let me think about some other ways to cut costs....

That is so sweet Maura!!!

 

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Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Yeah I think James and I could def do about $4k, maybe $5. Uggh this sucks b/c we had our church time for 1PM, but then we changed it to 11AM b/c we wanted to make the lunch time for the restaurant (it was the only way to keep it private).   But actually I think if we just did the restaurant it would be about $9520 w/o tax or tip. But we were also told we would have to hire a piano lady for the music. Not sure how much that would cost.

Glenda - why this restaurant? for a lunch it is pretty high. I had a really nice lunch party for K when he graduated from grad school and it was like $45 PP. I think we should explore a couple other places. Also, why a Piano Lady? What about Ipod hook up? none the less, you can probably get a piano lady for $500

[ErinB]

I have an extra dress! I totally forgot about that. Mike and I talked about getting married several years ago but decided to wait. It was a good thing because we were both too young!

 

I'll have to take pictures and see if anyone is interested.

 

You should also look at some BM dresses that come in white if you want to save money on the dress.

[Maura]

Glenda, here are photos of my two dresses if you like them:

heres what it looks like on a person haha

 

or heres the jcrew one (was $198 and avail. in catalog/online only)

 

i also have a second veil you could borrow.

is ivory with plain ivory edge.

[Maura]

ok another idea for a piano player if you are (pun intended) married to the idea.

 

call some of the music schools - like manhattan school of music and see if you can get a student to do it for substantially cheaper since they are not yet a professional. i bet you can find some good ones. i have a very good friend who graduated from there last year and she could probably recommend someone if you want me to ask, just let me know.

[NYJen]

I have an idea, how about the lunch at the restaurant and then dessert/cake cutting back at the house in the backyard?? This way you cover everything and save a few bucks by not having too full meals. And, this way, when your guests travel back to the house, they have time to digest their dinner and make room for dessert.

 

Also, I am officially offering to be your Day-of wedding planner. I can go to the church, restaurant and parents house to set up and make sure everything is ready to go. I'm not sure if this will save you any money, but it will hopefully put your mind at rest for the day knowing someone is there to oversee that everything runs smoothly. Seriously, let me know.

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by NYJen I have an idea, how about the lunch at the restaurant and then dessert/cake cutting back at the house in the backyard?? This way you cover everything and save a few bucks by not having too full meals. And, this way, when your guests travel back to the house, they have time to digest their dinner and make room for dessert. Also, I am officially offering to be your Day-of wedding planner. I can go to the church, restaurant and parents house to set up and make sure everything is ready to go. I'm not sure if this will save you any money, but it will hopefully put your mind at rest for the day knowing someone is there to oversee that everything runs smoothly. Seriously, let me know.

We love us some Glenda around here!

I like the idea of lunch & then just dessert at home. You also wouldn't need tables & chairs then.

[Christine]

oh Glenda, I just sent all my wedding stuff to my mom's house, you totally could have used one of my dresses, do you want a wedding dress? If you do I will have her mail it to you.

 

As for the wedding stuff. I don't think you need to have both a luncheon and something at James' parent house unless you make it simple. Also if you want to invite more people then you should do something simple at the in-laws house, but the rentals will cost a ton so see if there is anyway to avoid doing a bunch of rentals.

A cocktail party sounds perfect, why do you need to feed everyone? Why can't you go to the mexican rest. with immediate family (parents and siblings type people-I know this will still be a lot of people but 90 people is a lot to pay for a lunch at a rest.)

I will have to think of some other ideas, but my gf who did a backyard wedding spent more than I did on my wedding (double what I did) because of the rentals, so be really careful on that one...oh and are you stuck on that particular rest. it seems super expensive, and we did the "canned" music in our church ceremony and no one seemed to notice or care.