Family Dynamics at my shower...AHH

[JessicaM]

So my BM's and few friends from school are throwing me a shower and the invites just got delivered to everyone yesterday!!! So I am a little worried about everyone getting together though!! My FMIL and my FSMIL (step-mom in law) have never met one another, this will be the first time AT MY SHOWER! Both of them called yesterday freaking out about seeing one another! Plus my mom will see my dad's side of the family (grandma & aunts) for the first time since their divorce too!

 

I am trying to now worry but I cant seem to think something will be said or looks will be exchanged!! Or that fact that it will just be akward!! Guess their better be a lot of champagne flowing!!

[Karen]

Well hopefully everyone can hold it together for two hours and be positive for your sake. Don't worry. I'm sure it will work out.

[jajajaja]

Yikes- that does suck. But I'm assuming this won't be the last of the meetings either. They have to be around each other for the wedding, the whole trip, etc. Better to get the meeting done and over with.

 

Not to mention, when kiddies get in the picture, I'm assuming they might be around each other for that too. Like birthday parties, etc.

 

The good thing- I'm sure they respect and love you enough to keep it civil. And I absolutely agree- keep the bubbly flowing. It always helps me in uncomfortable situations.

[nikkianddean]

I think everyone will probably try to pull it together for your shower! I would say keep the bubbly flowing, but hopefully no one gets carried away and starts to feel "free"...

[becks]

I'm sure it will all work out - it's a bridal shower, so it's not as if there is anything that should arise that would ruffle feathers. Worst case, if something does come up, have your hostesses pull people aside and suggest that it's an important day for you, so maybe it's best to have the discussion on another day. They'll get it.

[JessicaM]

Not to mention' date=' when kiddies get in the picture, I'm assuming they might be around each other for that too. Like birthday parties, etc.QUOTE']

 

oh man we have had that discussion...we already have to celebrate christmas/birthdays/etc for days to get everyone in and without hurting anyones feelings!

 

Thanks ladies for the encouragement! Lets hope they pull it together and behave for 2 hours!! Maybe then it won't be as akward as you said at the wedding...Hopefully!

[Maura]

eeek i feel you -- this is exactly the reason why i have a shower for friends/my stepmom and a separate shower for my mom and her family -- my mom is nuts, and im not taking chances.

 

hopefully your family and inlaws can hold it together like adults. however, that being said, i know that mine wouldnt be able to which is why we did 2 showers.

[Hartyt509]

My advice : get rat arsed and let them get on with it - better at your shower than your wedding !

 

They'll be civil and it'll be fine but I'd get drunk so that I didn't really care anymore lol

[JessicaM]

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Originally Posted by Maura eeek i feel you -- this is exactly the reason why i have a shower for friends/my stepmom and a separate shower for my mom and her family -- my mom is nuts, and im not taking chances. hopefully your family and inlaws can hold it together like adults. however, that being said, i know that mine wouldnt be able to which is why we did 2 showers.

oh man Maura...I am sorry, I totally feel your pain!! I should have totally done that! Although maybe now my friends can mediate the whole thing if one of them actually does get mouthy!!

[Maura]

my parents have been divorced since 1992, but my mom still cant be civil with my dad/stepmom. i asked my aunt who is throwing my one shower if i could invite my s-mom because im close with her and my aunt actually flat out said no! she said i think if you want your s-mom involved, you should have another shower haha

 

she's right though! my mom is a total nightmare.