Breathe Sarah Breathe!

[MelanieS]

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Originally Posted by Maura ok wait... sarah... are you paying for the candy buffet? if so, your FMIL can shove off. its your wedding reception and you should be able to have ANYTHING you want, ESPECIALLY if you are paying for it.

I agree with Maura. I also don't think you should have to ask her permission on what you have at your reception. Just tell her that yes, everything is already bought, that you are excited to add this to your reception and that your FI loves the idea. (Hopefully, he'll back you up.)

Sarah, don't put yourself down when you talk to her - you aren't psycho or crazy for wanting to make your reception your perfect vison. Just be positive and say this is what we are doing. Good luck!

[Kat81]

PS why didn't we get any pictures?!

[rodent]

I find anytime my mom thinks one of my ideas sounds bad I just have to show her a picture. She was so against trashing the dress until she saw pictures. When I described my invites I could tell she had a weird image in her head. Yesterday she asked me for another because she wore out the first one showing everyone.

 

Your FMIL does seam really sweet. You can tell she tried really hard to nicely tell you she doesnt like the idea.

 

I agree, I'd rather have a margarita & candy than some coffee.

 

EDIT: typed this before I saw you sent pictures. This thread is active!

[Dez921714]

It's your reception and if you want it and you're paying for it...go for it

 

Tell her that you're gonna keep the candy bar and that if SHE wants to add a coffee bar, that'd be ok.

[rodent]

Then just tell her you've already done the work & are really excited about it. If she knows it somethign you really want she probably won't fight you on it. Then at the AHR people will probably be raving about the candy buffett & she'll come around.

[Kat81]

Not to mention a Coffee bar is sooo... I don't know.. Not fun! Who doesn't love Candy? I hope that is the highlight of the reception for people and the rave about it to your FMIL lol.

[Saraha]

I havent emailed her back yet. And I feel bad because we do have an amazing relationship but I dont understand what the big f$%# deal!

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by timelsel I agree with Maura. I also don't think you should have to ask her permission on what you have at your reception. Just tell her that yes, everything is already bought, that you are excited to add this to your reception and that your FI loves the idea. (Hopefully, he'll back you up.) Sarah, don't put yourself down when you talk to her - you aren't psycho or crazy for wanting to make your reception your perfect vison. Just be positive and say this is what we are doing. Good luck!

LISTEN TO MELANIE, SHE'S A MOM!

tell your FMIL its basically all done... you paid for it, if she wants to do the coffee bar in addition (which IMHO would be a bit much to do both), then fine. tell her its something you and your FI have discussed and wanted to do. then make sure your FI will back you up!

[jajajaja]

Even if she doesn't like the idea, I don't get it. It's just a candy bar- it's not like it's the primary focus of the AHR. Craziness. Plus for what it's worth- I think it's way better than a coffee bar. I think coffee is so boring (although I drink it nearly every day-haha)

 

I think the more people you share ideas with the more opinions you will get. Some of those might not see your vision or have another wacko vision altogether. With that in mind, do whatever the hell you want. Share your ideas, but take the feedback with a grain of salt.

[Saraha]

Thanks girls, its just frustrating becuase its about the tenth time this has happend.... I say I want wine, beer and maragritas.... then the say no lets just do wine and beer.....

 

Or lets uninvite kids becuase there are too many people coming.... WTH there is only two kids coming

 

UGHHHH!!!! Cant wait till this is over!