Future In Laws Vent

[baybride]

Ok so when FI and I decided to get married in Ocho Rios, we called our parents first to give them all the news. My parents were fine, shocked by the change, but ok with it. His parents.....Let's just say we called to talk to both of them at the same time, we only ended up talking to his dad to only get half or our plans and excitement out. We were stopped with, I don't think his mom will come, so of course I ask, why not, only to be told I've tried to get her there before and she wouldn't go. So I asked to speak to her so we could give her the same news....well I was told she would call me back and that was 2 weeks ago... no call. Well yesterday I decided to call her because I think I should start getting the STD's out soon since the wedding is now 11 months away, so I call his mom because of course he is terrible with helping me put together a guest list, so I call for her input for their family, to only hear, you guys are still trying to go to Jamaica I thought you would have changed your mind by now. WTH?? So was the silent treatment your way of punishing us so we would have OUR wedding your way. That will not happen this show will continued as plan and if they don't make it..... I tried.

[baybride]

I'm not sure how that weird face got in there.

[Opice34]

Is she afraid of flying or something? Do they not travel much? Maybe she just has some anxiety about traveling or something. Hopefully she'll get over that and realize that being at her son's wedding is more important than being a little uncomfortable! I'm just wondering why she hasn't wanted to go there previously....she may just have her own fears that have nothing to do with the wedding...

[starchild]

Why do people think it's all about them? I never get that. It's about you two and what you want. Try to shake it off and stick to your guns

[MsSunshine]

I'm sorry to hear about your FI...just keep with your original plan. She will eventually come out of it and come to your wedding. I know she wouldn't miss seeing her son get married right!

[MarieSam]

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Originally Posted by baybride I'm not sure how that weird face got in there.

that happened to me with the same face before, lol. you made me chuckle with that one!

But anyhow, as much as I believe family input is important to the "big day", my fiance constantly has to remind me that this is "OUR big day". So that being said, you have to do things that will make you happy and what you think is best. These are your memories and if anyone's happiness is important on that day, it is that of the couple getting married.

It sucks that the inlaws are not being supportive of your decision, esp. because this one of the most important days in their son's and your life. Do you know why they're so down on your location choice?? They've got to look at it as a wonderful wedding with an amazing vacation attached!

[beyondsmitten]

My advice: LET GOD AND LET GO ...

 

People act so funny about weddings, who knows why she "can't attend" if she does not come she will most likely regret it. It is a dissapointment but you have the right attitude about it, just proceed without her, and try your best not to let it taint your whole relationship with her. If she can't make it you can sit down after the honeymoon and watch the DVD with her. I'd try again to get her to help with the guest list (with no mention of her attending)... hopefully she can provide the assistance you need.

 

My sister, who is in the bridal party balked at staying at the same resort as the wedding. She said I couldn't control her and everything she did just because it was my wedding ?!? The resort does not have TV, she mentioned.

 

I explained that i hoped we would get ready TOGETHER the bridesmaids, the matron of honor, our mother. There were wedding events, dinners, lunches etc. and who goes to Jamaica and sits in the room to watch TV? Then I left it alone.

 

She can stay wherever she wants. Show up if she wants or not. If she is late to the wedding she can watch the DVD and see the parts she missed.

[Kat81]

My FBIL is staying at a different resort as well. He said it's his vacation too and he IS NOT staying where a bunch of kids are staying. I kinda see where he is coming from but for real dude put your brother ahead of your selfishness. My FI is pretty upset about it. I guess they won't be coming to the welcome dinner or the joint bachelor/ette party. Or the Rehersal dinner blah blah blah... I guess live and let be. You can't control other people and their selfish behavior. Does it hurt? yeah but there is nothing to do about it. BASTARDS

[ACDCDCAC]

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Originally Posted by baybride I'm not sure how that weird face got in there.

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Originally Posted by msam007562 that happened to me with the same face before, lol. you made me chuckle with that one!

triple Q marks gives you the . which i hate because i use 3Q all the time!! another surprise one is when you use an 8 next to a ), hence-

[Hartyt509]

Look on the bright side i the inlaws don't come its a lot less grief!! I wish to hell mine weren't going and i've even restricted that to his mother and new husband. He's been warned if his sister turns up i'll have security chuck her out lol FI's response! "you'll have to beat me to it" lmao he's only asking his mum because he "feels he needs to"!!

 

So look at it as a good thing she isn't coming, twisting and whinging on all the time and think about how great its going to be