I Gotta Personal Question/Problem ~ Women

[rodent]

I think we should start a daily "feel sexy" challenge. Kind of like the daily workout some of the girls used to do.

 

I will post tomorrow's challenge, then someone else can do the next day. Lets just do one a day so we don't get sexy overload. Wouldn't want to hurt anyone.

 

April 1st- Your mission if you chose to accept it- When you get home from work tomorrow, instead of throwing on sloppy PJs, put on something you feel cute in. Doesn't need to be sexy, just feel pretty.

 

I figure I should keep it simple for day one. Don't want the men to think we are playing April fools jokes on them.

[-Kate-]

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Originally Posted by Christa YES! OMG, you totally hit the nail on this Kate. We can't close our bedroom door, otherwise the cat freaks out (whether she's in or out). The dog is under the covers. We have a 17 year old that thinks it's cool to just barge in. Yeah...laundry, groceries, etc....we're pretty much screwed, but in a humorous way!

For real! We'll totally joke now - like "ooo baby it's so sexy when you lock the crying dogs out of our bedroom". Then we're laughing, then it's relaxed, then it's fun. You just have to get the stress and anxiety that surrounds it (especially when it's been a while) to go away. Laughing always works for us.

[Kat81]

Martha, I am all about the dirty text. My FI is out of town two weeks a month. I will just randomly send him something naughty. It is amazing how much it will turn you on. It's almost a power thing... if that makes since you can tell you are turning him on so much that it turns you on. I have had problems with my libido as well. I am on BC and that won't be changing until the wedding. I have just had to do crazy things out of the ordinary and it really does do wonders at making me want sex. I thought my FI and I might get kicked out of a hotel once because I made him get in the hottub with me and lets just say things got pretty hot lol... It is fun sometimes just to do something out of the ordinary.

[Ana]

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Originally Posted by Morgan I think we should start a daily "feel sexy" challenge. Kind of like the daily workout some of the girls used to do. I will post tomorrow's challenge, then someone else can do the next day. Lets just do one a day so we don't get sexy overload. Wouldn't want to hurt anyone. April 1st- Your mission if you chose to accept it- When you get home from work tomorrow, instead of throwing on sloppy PJs, put on something you feel cute in. Doesn't need to be sexy, just feel pretty. I figure I should keep it simple for day one. Don't want the men to think we are playing April fools jokes on them.

I'm in! I think its a great idea! I seem to be doing ok with the workout one...lol so I don't see why not. Although, I change into workout wear right after work and hit the gym or the sea wall to run. So I might have to change into something pretty for the night time

[A10CalGal]

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Originally Posted by Morgan April 1st- Your mission if you chose to accept it- When you get home from work tomorrow, instead of throwing on sloppy PJs, put on something you feel cute in. Doesn't need to be sexy, just feel pretty. .

That's a really great idea Morgan! I accept!

However, can I say - Damn! My man puts on the same goddamnn pair of sweats every day after work BEFORE I get home...so I see the same thing every day I get home!

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by Adinu I'm in! I think its a great idea! I seem to be doing ok with the workout one...lol so I don't see why not. Although, I change into workout wear right after work and hit the gym or the sea wall to run. So I might have to change into something pretty for the night time

Then your challenge begins after your workout. Just when you'd normally put on old PJs. Atleast that's what I do. Come home & throw on PJ pants and a t-shirt from a gym I used to work at. I have them in every color.

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Originally Posted by Christa That's a really great idea Morgan! I accept! However, can I say - Damn! My man puts on the same goddamnn pair of sweats every day after work BEFORE I get home...so I see the same thing every day I get home!

Maybe he will get inspired by you looking good then. Mike wears grungy clothes around the house too. I really didn't care. But, then my grandma bought him some nice PJs for christmas & I get excited everytime he has them on. I feel weird because they came from my gma. But, he just looks so good in them.

You don't have to dress up. Just something you feel good in. For me, it will probably be my pretty PJs not my old gym t-shirt.

[boscobel]

Love your idea, Morgan!

 

Also, love sexy texts. When I first met Matt, we had various types of sex everywhere and anywhere. We were quite the exhibisionists. So the hottest texts for him to receive from me state those crazy places that we did things. I don't even need to say anything other then "Franklin Institute" before he get's all hot and bothered.

 

Also, I agree with the "tell yourself you are sexy" cuz it def helps the confidence. I changed two of my body piercings this week and it totally made me horny. Just the change, was a total turnon.

 

So apparently, I need to change my body piercings more often!

 

It appears that the majority of us have body issues and that is why sex is hurting. Along with BC. I wish I could go to a hypnotist and have them hypnotize me into being confident and liking to exercise and liking veggies. That'd be great.

[dgsjsu]

I am so happy that I found this post. I am actually seeing my Dr. on Wed. for the same reason. I noticed that when I started my BC a 1.5 years ago that something what different. We'll it is a problem with my FI and so I have decided to see my Dr. to hopefully change my BC. I would like to go off of BC but I think that I would be paranoid about getting preg. with just condoms and not enjoy it. I dont want to be 4 months preg on my wedding day. Hopefully the Dr. will give good advice that I can bring back to the board on Wed.

[ErinB]

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Originally Posted by LALA We have to put up a baby gate to keep the dogs out of our room because our master suite is the 3rd floor and there is no door. And then we have to get up and go to the grocery or we'll have no food for the week. And then there is the laundry. How hot is it to say "should we feed the dogs first?" then put up a gate so you can have sex? It's not - but we've learned to laugh about it.

And do you feel super guilty when the dog is in the room or watching behind the baby gate? I feel like I'm causing him emotional trauma and we'll have to take him to a therapist (Best in Show)!

I agree about being in a rut. When FI was traveling with football, I'd jump all over him as soon as he got home, not to mention he had the best ass in the world! We also had to do it before every game for good luck! We did this when we first started dating and they won, so we had to keep the streak going...LOL

We've both kind of let ourselves go and it takes effort from both parties involved. Though I do have to say if you are introducing new things into the bedroom, you might want to take some baby steps. We have been together for 6 years so this is not a new issue for us. Well, FI decided to "spice things up" and got a little crazy with the gadgetry. It kinda freaked me out! If anyone has a major size discrepency with their FI (or if you're pregnant) I would highly recommend the Liberator. If nothing else the website is funny to look at NOT AT WORK!

There is a 14K gold "toy". What would you do if you got divorced? Do you take it to a jeweler and have it melted down, put on a chain, what? Sorry, these are the things I think about when I can't sleep and/or don't feel like working...

[jean-marcus]

k so earlier i mentioned that i usually end up giving advice to my female friends because my father was an OBGYN and i took several sexuality classes in college... well i called him up to ask .. of course he is going to think that im secretly asking for myself because i said...

 

"i have this friends in this chat room" and the women were talking about their libido dropping and wondering why it was... so pretty much his advice was...

 

first off try switching types of BC pills... if that doesnt work maybe an alternative like that IUD or depo pravera or diaphram ( a pain to always use though) but he strongly urges that you talk to your doctor about it because it could be a variety of reasons .