Bachelorette Party Issue - Help!!!

[boscobel]

I am going to give the other side of opinions here... Personally, I've never been to LV and if Matt and I were going to be there at the same time, I def would want some time to enjoy it with him. Maybe not for romantic reasons, but just cuz he is my best friend and who I like to be around the most. I am alot older (feeling) then I used to be and I wouldn't want to party for 3 consecutive days. If I party hard on Saturday night, I am barely ok for work on Monday anymore!!!

 

edited to add - Just read Kelly's response - and WELL SAID, KELLY! I agree completely.

[Hartyt509]

Just be really honest with her and ask her what she wants, let her speak, then say look its my party - i'd like it to the 4 of us but if you don't want to do that one night fine but you are still paying your share. Why should the rest of you suffer because she wants to go off with her hubby!! you've already compromised dig your heels in and don't let her walk all over you, or anyone else for that matter.

 

I'd murder my friends if they tried that, there again they can't usually wait to get a break from the hubbys and kids lmao

[angitalia23]

Ya sounds like she is being a tad selfish...and hello...its your bacholorette party! I say she and husband can go off by themselves the last night when your doing the guy/girl night. Tell her to suck it up and spend time with you and the girls- its Vegas!!!!

[Yari]

I think she is being lame, but if she wants to have a "romantic" night with her man then so be it. Who knows, maybe he doesn't want to have the "romantic" night after all. I am sure he will get some ribbing from the guys about it.

[drbrainfreeze]

Ha! I just got a phone call from her (a message...) and she went on and on about how they are going out Thurs-Sunday (we are still going out Fri-Monday) and she is going to do the bachelorette thing with us Friday night only. Then her and her hubby are going to get a room Sat night and leave Sun. So basically, of the 3 nights that we are going to be there together for my bachelorette party, my BM will partake in 1 night.

 

:-(

[violethaze2b]

Wow, that stinks!I would be pissed for having compromised and changed the location and then the same person totally changing the plan altoghether at the new destination. Not cool.

Good luck and try to have fun anyway.

Any hopes of me getting a bachelorette party have been dashed so have fun in Vegas for me!!!

[JulieG]

I think that she did this on purpose, decided Vegas would be better specifically so she could spend the time with her DH. I think its wrong of her. If she is going on Thursday with her DH, then she can spend that night with him and the rest with you guys. Instead she is spending 1 with you and 2 with him when the whole point was to go with you and not him for your bachelorette. Is it too late to say no, we are going somewhere else? Let the guys do our thing and we will do ours, in a different place? That way its all about you, as it should be, instead of it being about her wanting to spend time away with her DH.

[cjuarbe]

Here is my personal opinion. If she is being this selfish about YOUR party weekend, you are better off w/o her. You don't want to force someone to have fun with you. It's just not worth the effort and she is not worth trying to convince. Just brush it off and have fun on your own and NEVER let her know you are disappointed. She will feel bad and left out all on her own when you guys are doing your own thing and have stories to tell and fun pictures to show. You basically gave her a little bit of rope and she has hung herself with it. I understand her wanting to spend time with her significant other but they would not be there if it weren't for you. The weekend plans should revolve around you and no one else. She could of easily arrived a day earlier or left a day later to spend alone time with him.

[drbrainfreeze]

Thanks everyone! I think we have finally come to terms with each other and worked things out. She just tends to live in her own world and doesn't really think about it. I think her husband actually told her he didn't want to miss out on the fun ;-)