Question re: addressing save the dates

[Dez921714]

Ok, I searched, but didn't see an answer to my question, so I figured I'd just ask, sorry if I'm repeating something......

 

We are sending out our save the dates early next week and I'm working on the addresses, I've already decided to put "& guest" if they're single or I don't know their boyfriend/girlfriends name, my question is about inviting families...

 

I know on the actual invitation, you're just supposed to put Mr & Mrs John Smith and on the inner envelope put Mr & Mrs John Smith and Lisa & Bob.

 

Is it ok to address the save the date to "The Smith Family" so that when they start booking, they know the kids are invited too.

 

Thanks!

Desiree

[lucy106]

Thats what we did. Plus I am trying not to be too formal anyway. I did end up with a few extra magents so I sent the older kids their own (age 9,10), they got a kick out of having their own envelopes and magnet.

[Dez921714]

Thanks, I'll probably do it to "& Family" for famalies and "& Guest" if I don't know the guests name...It'll make planning easier on my guests

[ACDCDCAC]

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Originally Posted by deznchris2006 Thanks, I'll probably do it to "& Family" for famalies and "& Guest" if I don't know the guests name...It'll make planning easier on my guests

I know I've heard your not "supposed" to put "& Guest", but I don't give a flying flip about that. If I want my single friends to be able to bring a friend or a date, but they don't have a SO at the time I address these, then how else are they supposed to know it's OK? Duhr! I think that is so old fashioned, etiquette (sp?) presuming that everyone has an SO if they will be invited and that yo know everyones names. What if my (fake) friend Jane Smith and her current BF (who I don't know well) John Doe break up and the next month she meets the man of dreams? Of course I want her to bring Mr. X, and not feel like she can't bring anyone cause the invite says Jane Smith & John Doe. I think Jane would appreciate if I put "& Guest."
hahahaha, ok enough of the rant. so anyways, yes, i think that's just fine!

[rodent]

I didn't get specific with the wording on the invites, but all the details were on my website about kids & guests.

[Christine]

with STD's they are less formal so you can be less formal in the wording...I did and guest or addressed something to the entire family. I also did just Jon and Cindy Smith instead of Mr and Mrs Jon Smith for STD's.

[Maura]

yes, etiquette says you should not put "& guest" on an outer envelope.

 

we didn't put & guest on any of our envelopes for the STDs. we have a limited number of single or just dating friends, and they either knew in advance they could bring a guest or called to pass it by me before they did the preliminary rsvp. the couple of people i was not sure would know it was ok to bring a guest, i followed up with via email or phone. since we have the preliminary rsvp, i will know who is coming that i need to address invitations to, so i will not need to put any & guests because each person had to rsvp with their name and their guests name.

 

i think its perfectly acceptable to address things to a whole family if you want them to understand kids are invited.