Dinner or Brunch?

[Ali0624]

Maybe brunch is the way to go. My future FIL and his wife have no qualms, but it is Bill's maternal side of the family that is problematic. My future MIL would probably attend an event where they were present, but would not like it. Her mother (grandma) on the other hand is the issue. She may not even come to the wedding knowing that dad will be present. Bill is definitely going to talk with them, but he doesn't want to have a dinner or brunch because he doesn't want any other situations outside of the wedding where he will have to deal with them being together. I understand, but I want to do something and also think we owe it to our guests who are spending so much to be with us. I guess I could always do 2 different meals, but that would not be my first choice.

The whole situation is hard for me to understand. I have a HUGE family, and everyone gets along just fine. Bill is an only child, and his family is tiny - yet there are so many problems. I guess that is just the nature of things