AUGUST '08 brides!!

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by becks Yay!!! Invites out! Mine will go sometime around the 20th!!! More importantly, did you try the dress on? And by the way... 3 months from today I'll have to start calling you MRS. Maura!!!!

Our invitations in Mexico will be hand delivered by the driver the last week of May.

I did go to Ann Taylor, but they were totally out of the dress! I was so bummed. I did try on this one and liked it a lot:
ANN TAYLOR ONLINE STORE: Tropical Hibiscus Clip Dot Dress

the only problem is that the petite size is still slightly long because im so short, so i would need it altered. since i went and picked up jose's sister's BM dress (dont even ask), i got a 20% off coupon for may 15-june 1, so the dress would only be about $126, plus another $15 of alterations probably. so im okay with that because its a tropical looking dress and i can wear it on my honeymoon or something too to get good use out of it. SO I may go buy it with my coupon. My stepmom is going to go shopping with me, but she has much different taste than I do... god I wish I had some of my close girlfriends living here sometimes.

oh and BTW.... you can start calling me mrs maura instead of miss maura in about 60 days.... kinda freaking out about that. theres hardly anything done and/or a lot left to do for that still... see the july brides thread for deets on that.

[Maura]

so..... i just had a conversation with my sister... she is NOT coming to my wedding! she tried to turn it around on me that its my fault that i picked a place that was too difficult for "people" to go. i told her that i really dont know who she means by people since the only people who bitched and moaned about my DW are 1)her, 2) my mother with whom i have no relationship, 3) my aunt who is finishing her basement for 40K this year and has taken no less than 8 trips to visit her daughter in florida over the last 5 months, yet claims she has no money and 4) my racist 85 yr old grandmother who is too ill to travel anyway and never would have been able to make it anyway even if she didnt object to my marriage.

 

im sorry -- i gave my family 9 months notice that i was having a DW, and if they have not made it a priority to save money to go to my wedding, why is that all of a sudden my fault? my sister told me about 6-7 weeks ago (the last time we spoke) that she didnt agree with my decision to get married (which she now denies saying) and wanted to know why i was in such a rush to get married. she gave me a tirade about why do i have to get married in another country... omfg. i fucking HATE my family! why do i even acknowledge they exist?

 

the whole thing to begin with is that i only asked my sister to be my MOH because i felt that i had to to keep the peace with my mom's side of the family with most of whom i have never gotten along with. my sister is such a fucking bitch, she is trying to turn this whole thing around on me like its my fault that she is a fucking asshole. AND she had the effing BALLS to tell me she would be happy to attend anything held in chicago for my mom's side of the family (dont even know WHY the FUCK she would think i was planning anything for those fuckwits, considering not a single one of them has been supportive of my wedding or offered to help in any way, asked about any details to do with the wedding, or EVEN VISITED MY WEDDING WEBPAGE!!! WHY ON EARTH SHOULD I THROW A SEPARATE PARTY FOR THOSE IDIOTS

[katrina]

aahhhh oh no! i'm sorry your sister is too selfish to be there by your side for your wedding. unfortunately weddings really bring out peoples' true colors... but atleast jose's family sounds like a really nice group and they love you a ton. i know it would never replace your own family but it still helps.

[becks]

Oh hell Maura!!!! She's in California, right? I'm going out there on June 6 - give me her address because I am totally going to go and kick her ass into next year.

 

I'm sorry, but what a f***ing c**t! I mean seriously... who does shit like that?!?!? Except for immature, selfish, nasty, bitchy people that we don't want in our lives anyway!

 

I hate to say it, but it's time to stop trying. You know that I, of all people, wouldn't say that unless there was absolutely and utterly no other choice. But it sounds like she's been poisoned by your mother or something.

 

So, vent, rant and rage, and then forget it and move on. Because she's simply not worth the frustration. Hopefully someday she'll come around and figure out that she's violated the trust of someone who is wonderful and generous, but she's not going to realize that until you're not there for her.

 

You paid for her dress, didn't you? I'd demand that she reimburse you - even if she doesn't, making the demand will make you feel better.

 

Big hugs my dear!!! You know if I didn't have other plans, I'd be there to step in!

[Maura]

thanks guys. yeah, i am extremely greatful that jose's family is so great (even if my FSIL is a total idiot sometimes). i just wish his family lived closer.

 

i have honestly no idea why my sister ever thought that i would pay for her entire trip, which is why she said she agreed to be my MOH in the first place. wtf. i never said i would pay for ANY of her trip... i offered to pay for her dress, which was $165 because i could cover that.

 

the choice quote, among the many incredible things she said to me last night --which i should mention, was all via instant message because she does not even have enough respect to CALL ME on the telephone to discuss this-- "it is not just about you & jose" -------WHAT?! YES, BITCH, IT IS! why do people think that we should cater to THEIR needs for OUR wedding

 

rebecca, she actually told me shes not leaving for CA until June 8th -- the day after my shower, but she would not confirm that she is coming to that, nor has she RSVPd to my stepmom.

 

I'm not sad about this whole situation -- i mean i am regretful that i dont have the kind of sisterly relationship that i desire with my sister, but that is through no fault of my own -- i am really just angry. my wedding has really and truly brought out the worst in everyone on my moms side of the family except one person. who the fuck does my sister think she is, expecting me to plan a second party for my mom's side of the family, who doesnt give a rat's ass about me anyway? it just baffles me where people come up with this shit.

[Maura]

we had a bit of a wedding emergency last weekend haha... jose tried his suit on to see how it would look with a certain shirt... well... the jacket fits fine, but the pants are HUGE. no way can he wear them! and theres a bleach-looking stain of some kind on the back as well thats really visible in natural light ---this is what he gets for not getting his pants dry cleaned often and wearing the pants separate from the jacket too much. so now we have to go buy him a new tan suit! damn there goes $400. i think we are doing that later today, if so i will report back with a photo!

[Sandra E.]

Maura,

I'm sorry about all of the headaches your sister has been given you, but now that you know the outcome you can focus on yourself. I'm glad Jose's family is supportive.

[Maura]

is anybody working on their centerpieces yet? i am about to run out to crate & barrel to pick up a hurricane to put a candle in and play with. i want to do something with sand in the hurricane jar, then the candle and some seashells and maybe miniature starfish. anybody have pics of anything like that? here are a few of my inspiration pics. i will post my actual trial run later today when i get back and do it. i bought white pillar candles, sand and some seashells from target yesterday.

 

[Maura]

ok realized i forgot to post my centerpiece creation!

 

also, today we ordered my wedding band!

[becks]

Oooooooh! I like your centerpieces! And I loooove your wedding band!

 

We got back from Mexico late on Monday and have been running around getting ready for the move tomorrow.

 

We are going ultra simple for our centerpieces - mostly because we aren't doing anything at the restaurant, so it's only the cocktail tables at the reception - so we have bright pink rose petals in water with floating candles on top. Easy, simple, and all I have to bring are the candles!