Anyone having guests stay in one hotel and having ceremony/reception in another?

[runnernikki]

I'm struggling with the thought of asking my guests to pay $200-$300/night for 3-4 nights for my wedding. However, the 3 venues that I would LOVE to have my ceremony/reception at charge those type of rates. Is/has anyone hosting their ceremony/reception at a different resort other than the one their guests are staying at?

 

Any thoughts on this? Too confusing, too much extra planning, etc. Is there some financial perk to staying and hosting at the same venue?

 

[TammyB]

*raising hand* me, me.. Were staying at Villa Del Palmar and having our dinner and ceremony at the Sheraton. We will provide transportation for our guest that day.

[destinationbride07]

Yes! We are getting married Waimanolo beah which is 45 min from Waikiki...we are not requiring our guest to stay at a specific hotel just in the Waikiki area..

[destinationbride07]

We are also providing the transportation as well..

[JENESIS]

OUr wedding is at the HIlton. Only a hanful are staying there. THe rest are all over the place. I didn't feel comfortable tellling people what to pay.

[runnernikki]

this is soooo good to hear. I was freaking out thinking that guests had to stay at the same venue that the event was being held at. This puts a whole new spin on things ) !

[TammyB]

The only time that would be helpful is if your doing an AI and having your ceremony there. Many resorts will charge you for bringing someone to their property. So make sure you ask about that.

[anaderoux]

I'm just suggesting the hotel where I will host the reception but my guest are free to stay wherever they want.. The ceremony will be in the church so I'll provide transportation Hotel-church church-hotel, but just the reception's hotel..

[TammyWright]

i'm going to go out on a limb here...i think if you can, it is best to have your guests stay in one spot. i think it really dilutes the experience of a DW if they are all staying in different areas. one of the main reason we had a destination wedding was so our friends and family could spend time with us and each other. it was such a great way for us all to get to know each other better. my parents and his parents are so fond of each other now.

 

we loved having our meals together, lounging by the pool together, the ladies doing a spa day together, the younger group went out together.

 

then throw in the fact that you are trying to get a large group of people together and have them navigate around a town that they are unfamiliar with and do not know the language, i think you are causing a stressful situation. in an ideal situation, you would have all those details taken care of for them so they really just need to show up. Keep in mind transportation can get expensive....the $40 a day they spent on cabs could have gone to a better resort.

 

i think for anac, your family speaks spanish so it doesnt really apply. sherri and tammym your groups are so small it is different as well...

 

i really think if you are thinking a group of 20 or more it is just better...or at least have them only stay at 1 or 2 resorts that are fairly near each other.

 

my 2 cents.

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We got married at Cabo Surf but only had about 1/3 of our guests stay there. The others stayed in much cheaper condos nearby and saved a ton of money. Just make sure to plan lots of group events so you get to see everyone. We had a group activity, dinner, surfing lessons, wedding, and brunch...so it wasn't a problem.