We have everything...is there a polite way to ask for cash?

[Hartyt509]

Or when you give someone an engagement present and a year later you get the same one back lol if people are going to do that they need a good memory lol

 

I recently found out that the presents i had been giving my friends kids for years were part of a kids swap! needless to say i don't buy expensive presents anymore! people are so rude lol

[Samantha S]

I posted a thread asking about honeyfund.com and so far only one gal has just started using them but it looks like a way to 'get cash' with out being tacky given honeymoon registries are very common these days. It is free and you customize what things you want to list-- then people send a check with a printed out gift voucher for whatever registry item they bought you or you set up a paypal account. I think I'll try it out because we have lived together for a million years and don't need anything but some fun adventures on our honeymoon would be fabulous!

[Celina]

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Originally Posted by timelsel OK, here's the mother in me coming out. "I want to remind you girls it is VERY important to write your thank you notes, whether you receive money, gifts you have registered for, or something really hideous that no one could possibly know what it is. The people thought enough of you to wrap a gift and bring it to your wedding, so please acknowledge their gift". We now take you back to your regularly scheduled program.

I agree here 100%! I am a hand written thank you card giver! I even make my kids write thank you cards.

There is nothing worse than a thank you letter that is type written and not signed. In my opinion, why write it??

[janellepo]

What about putting it onto your wedding website in the registry portion? Just list it as an option.

Is this still tacky?

I was thinking of doing this.

[janellepo]

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Originally Posted by timelsel OK, here's the mother in me coming out. "I want to remind you girls it is VERY important to write your thank you notes, whether you receive money, gifts you have registered for, or something really hideous that no one could possibly know what it is. The people thought enough of you to wrap a gift and bring it to your wedding, so please acknowledge their gift". We now take you back to your regularly scheduled program.

I second that!
My brother got married and NEVER sent out ANY thank you's! I was appalled!

[MelanieS]

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Originally Posted by janellepo What about putting it onto your wedding website in the registry portion? Just list it as an option. Is this still tacky? I was thinking of doing this.

Putting it on your wedding website doesn't bother me one bit. I think it's a good way to get your information out to people that are interested.

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by SoontobeMrsE I agree here 100%! I am a hand written thank you card giver! I even make my kids write thank you cards. There is nothing worse than a thank you letter that is type written and not signed. In my opinion, why write it??

i 100% agree too!

among my friends, i am famous for sending out thank you cards quickly and also calling to say thanks when i receive something. i always make my own thank you cards too, it gives it such a personal touch in addition to personally handwriting and signing your card -- and no generic "thanks for the gift" message -- i always write something to the effect of "thank you so much for the ____." and then i tell them something nice about how i used the gift or whatever. i always get comments about how nice my thank you cards are, but really i think its something everyone should do. in college, i had a side business making thank you cards and other personalized stationery for sororities, and its something i love to do to be creative anyway. i just make myself a batch of them all at once and keep them in a drawer, and i also always carry an extra small 4 bar thank you note in my day planner in case of emergencies. haha.

[MelanieS]

Maura, you are my kind of girl!

[RoSean]

My future MIL suggested that the bridal shower invitation should have a blurb on it with "Cash gift is appreciated". I was totally against it.

 

I purposely registered in Bed Bath & Beyond because of their refund policy. Most of the items I picked were expensive since those are the stuff that I really need, not plastic spatulas...I also did not register for too many items so once the registry is complete then hopefully guest would just give cash.

[NYJen]

For every wedding I've ever been to, my gift giving policy is I give a physical gift (something off the registry) for the shower and cash for the wedding. Brendan and I already have everything, so I didn't register and I didn't have a shower. I was hoping people would take the hint and just give us cash for the wedding (like we did for them.) But we've already gotten 2 Tiffany vases, a digital picture frame, a Waterford candle set, and a gift card. And my uncle (who is not coming to the wedding) sent us a very generous check. He gets it.

 

Yet I have friends who keep asking me where I'm registered and when I tell them I'm not because I don't need or want anything, they tell me they'll come up with something "creative." I would NEVER tell them that I would prefer cash, but come on people, we're in our mid-30's, we own our house and fully renovated it already, we do pretty well for ourselves and buy ourselves whatever we want. What can you possibly give us that we still need or want Everyone knows we don't like clutter. Just give us cash or a gift card, seriously!!!

 

I hope that doesn't sound ungrateful.