Singing Dilemma

[Bavaro-Princess]

Hey everybody so my maid of honor decided that she wants to surprise us and sing for our wedding… this is someone whom I have never ever heard singing before. Last week she had a little solo part in church and according to her everybody apparently loved her 2 second solo… I in the other hand have not heard her sing ever…

 

And when I ask around people tell me “noo, she can’t sing, she doest hit the right notesâ€â€¦

 

She called me and told me she wanted to do a surprise for us and sing on our wedding day, I suggested that she sings in the bridal shower or in the engagement party but she insisted and said “NO, I WANT TO SING IN THE WEDDING and is going to be a surprise so if you like it or not you have no say in itâ€

 

How do I tell her NO I don’t want any singing in my wedding? Help please I don’t want to be rude…

 

P.S. she has also had issues with the color of her dress, the style, everything… apparently she thinks this is her wedding

 

the only reason why i made her maid of honor was because shes my Fiances twin sister and my matron of honor just gave birth to her first baby and could not help me with the wedding preparations... i felt obligated to give her a title since she has offered to help me...

[Kristy!]

I'd tell her you appreciate the offer, but you have limited time for the ceremony and that will put you over the allotted time.

[lucy106]

Holy crap! That pretty damn nervy! Can you tell her the resort doent have the equipment for it? or no? Umm I do like Kristy's option of "there is not time"

[Sandra E.]

Wow! This is crazy but yet hilarious because I can't believe you're actually in this situation. I certainly cannot believe she thinks this is her wedding. You definitely need to put your foot down and tell her you already have a program planned for your wedding and it doesn't include her singing in it. If she keeps pushing, then I guess you'll have to give her a firm NO.

 

Sorry you're going through this, let us know the outcome.

[boscobel]

Hmmmm, that's a toughie. And how exactly is it a surprise if she's already told you about it?

 

I would try to do what was mentioned previously, let her knowt hat there is only so much time allotted for the ceremony and perhaps she can sing something at the reception. Cuz really, if it's that important to her, what's the big deal?

[Sandra E.]

Hmmmm, that's a toughie. And how exactly is it a surprise if she's already told you about it?

 

Great point!

[Maura]

you can certainly tell her one more time that you have a full to the minute schedule planned and that if she wants to sing, she can do it at the other times you mentioned, but beyond that she becomes your FI's responsibility. you tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that you dont want it, and if he has to involve his mother to back him up, then he should do so.

[Kristy!]

I would also make it clear to all involved that day (wc, officiant, etc) that they are not to stray from the set program at all. Specifically say you do not want any surprises.

[happyone]

She sounds a little wacky in the head. I agree with Maura about involving your FI. It's his family and sometimes it's best to let them do the dirty work.

[Yari]

Wow, people are so crazy! What does she mean you have no say in it. It's your freaking wedding, you have every say in it!!

 

I would politely tell her thanks, but no thanks.

 

Good luck!